I've had severe depression for 1 year now and the past 2 months have been hell he won't listen to me and keeps accusing me off all kinds of things.
2006-07-05 10:40:29 · 24 answers · asked by Rach 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your clinical depression can cause emotional depression in those around you. His patience and understanding could be wearing thin. Talk to your doctor to find out if there is a therapist that he could go to (actually it would be great for both of you to go together).
2006-07-05 10:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea, you know, ALL people, men AND women have to get over the fact that this IS a disease, and there's not exactly a magic pill out there. My guess is that you're on meds, and you are seeking help, and getting it, and some people don't understand this takes time to do. Hell, i've been through it for 3 years now, and still goin through it. But, i have a girlfriend that doesn't treat me like crap. Why? Cause she understands, and she's there for me.
Unlike your fiance, who's either a) dumb enough to not realize this b) Doesn't wanna understand it or c) Well, just plain stupid.
My suggestion is to sit him down, talk to him, try and HELP him understand about what's going on in your life right now, and the crap you don't need. Be nice about it though. But, he needs to understand what you can and can't deal with.
It's stupid how he accuses you of everything - and even more stupid that it's been goin on for 2 months now. If the talk doesn't help, i'm sorry to say it, but, you have to give him an ultimatium. Either understand you - or leave. As much as that kinda sucks to say, but, you don't need this, and i do hope things work out, and don't come to that =)
2006-07-05 17:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by XxDJToxic420xX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though, like so many others, he doesn't take the issue of depression seriously and thinks you're just "trying it on".
I would get him to read a depression-related article in a medical book or journal; maybe then he'll change his attitude. Or make an appointment with a doctor or psychologist and insist that your fiance goes with you.
If none of this works, show your fiance the door. You'll be much better off without him.
2006-07-06 05:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Robert C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation a little over a year ago. The only thing i can say is if he is accusing you of thing the chances are that he is hiding something from you. As for the depression he could be causing that too.
2006-07-05 17:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a similar experience... I think that people just don't understand what you are going through, and they don't realise just how difficult things are for you at the moment. Maybe he craves attention or something because he feels that because of your illness, the attention is being drawn away from him. I think what you need to do is have a talk with him when you feel strong enough, and ask him how he feels about the situation, and how he is dealing with what is going on with you. Perhaps he has some issues that he has to work through as well... Hang in there hun =)
2006-07-06 05:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Crissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is finance being mean to you? What is he accusing you of doing? Being depressed sometimes we make things negative when they are not. Best way to deal with it is if has any truth admit it. Who among us is perfect? I am not prefect. In relationships you have to get the good with the bad. (just like life) If the bad is more than the good, end the relationship.
2006-07-06 17:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by billymike1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can tell you this, men don't understand that women can get sick to and so they don't know how to handle it.The first thing you need to do if you are not already on medicines is to find yourself a doctor and have him give you some antidepressant.Help yourself first and put him second if he cant understand and cant help you through.I would start thinking if he was worth worry with because you don't need more pressures on you.TAKE CARE OF YOU.
2006-07-05 17:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by little miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your fiance has problems of his own. like maybe he is a bit controlling... or maybe a bit obsessive with you... does he want to know where you are all the time?? who you are with?? Did this start as soon as you started to come out of the dark? Sometimes our partners can't handle the thought of losing us, I mean we are easy to keep when we are sooooo low. They don't have to dazzle us. They just have to put up with us... So he is really worried at this point... a bit obsessed with the thought of losing you... If you love him... talk to him..try to reassure him that you aren't interested in anyone else, that you are not out there searching for a replacement.... Try to wean him of this behavior....it won't happen all at once... be patient with him.... he probably had a lot of patience with you to a stuck it out with you for the past year.... keep a dialog going with him .... Good luck
2006-07-05 18:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by running2adream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it and say if he keeps it up for no reason theres no point marrying you!! He could be the one causing you depression also and you just dont know it. My last bf caused my depression and i didnt really understand why until i broke up with him and then i realised all what he was doing. i with someone new now and he puts up with alot and is always there for me when i need to talk about stuff. he just wants me to be happy! hope this helps!! good luck!
2006-07-06 06:12:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't understand! Sometimes they just get so frustrated they take it out on you. As for the accusing you of things, maybe he has a guilty conscience.
2006-07-05 17:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by KMCTP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋