In my case the girl and my friend had been dating for over a year and I had been friends with both of them prior to them dating each other. I hung out with them a lot and when their relationship got kinda rocky they both came to me for relationship advice. After awhile I started hanging out with his GF (my friend) sometimes without him so she could have sometime to vent to about him. Eventually he started getting very jealous of me and even bringing up accusations of cheating and such. The friendship between us was kind of messed up after that. About a month later he suggested that maybe the best thing for them was to break up and she agreed to it. They said it was "mutual" and they would "still be friends" but they never hung out and all his friends and her former friends never hung out with her anymore with the exception of myself. Now it is many months later and I barely ever talk to him anymore, and her and I have become good friends and thought about dating. Is it wrong?
2006-07-05 10:21:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. Not ok to date your friend's ex. It is wrong and you sound like you played a part in breaking up your "friend." Anyway you seem like a slimeball.
2006-07-05 10:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you should be the one to decide that answer. Seems to me that you do think that it's wrong because you are having to ask this question. Would you want your friend dating your ex that you were very close with? HELL NO!!! If you want to keep both of them in your life than be friends with both and keep your hands off of her. Even though ya'll have created a bond you could possibly be losing BOTH friends in the end. Seems you have basically lost him already...and do you think you'll be with this chick forever? what happens when ya'll break up? you've lost her too. You should use your brain hun. Think about what's most important to you and base your decision on your OWN judgment.
2006-07-05 17:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by noriahchapman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong. It was kind of wrong to hang out with her without her bf. Even though you two were friends yourseleves, that sort of changed since she was taken. But I think you should give it a shot an ask her out. As long as you are not friends with her ex anymore.
I just want to add that it's totally different for girls. Whether your friends or not...ex boyfriends are ALWAYS "OFF LIMITS" Like, Gretchen said, "Ex-boyfriends are just like off limits to friends, I mean that's just like, the rules of feminism!" (Mean Girls)
2006-07-05 17:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by tleighann99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not wrong. if she likes u and u like her then go for it...but if yor friend really is still upset then he''s not really that good of a friend...and NEITHER R U! no effence but that is kinda mean. i would prolly do the same thing tho...o wait..i already have..but my friends were still my friends after a while..just wait and see if he will still be yor friend...sooner or later he will be. just dont even come close to mentioning that girls name around him..good luck and take care buh bye
2006-07-05 17:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by teeny* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your friend and you have become distant and he's living in his own world with others now I don't see why he should care..You could always ask him if it's that much of a concern.If not either way I think you and your friend should date.Life goes on.
2006-07-05 21:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounded like you destroyed a couple there. But I guess why don't you give a shot at her, don't get caught up with the past, if your guy from doesn't want to be your friend anymore, so let him be and move on with his ex
2006-07-05 17:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be wrong? Sounds like you've had a thing for her all along and now you don't see your friend anymore anyway. You sure she'd want to date you though?
2006-07-05 17:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ahwell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not cool....sounds like you are going to do it anyway though. Just make sure you are on the up and up with the guy.....i would hate for him to find out someway other than from you.
A question for you......how would you feel if your buddy dates your ex? And all those stories he has told you about all the girls he's been with....as SOON as you go there with HIS ex.....you have been with all them too!!!!!!
2006-07-05 17:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by adnerb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong at all to want it, but also take into acct that he may feel resentment even if you aren't doing this to put it in his face. I say it's okay, but let him know yourself and not let it be found out from another source.
2006-07-05 17:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by JGIII 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It souds like you are not going to be dating your friend's ex anymore, since it sounds like this person is not your friend. So go ahead.
2006-07-05 17:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by ohnoslen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not really ok, but if you ask them first and he says yes, I guess it's fine. Good Luck..
2006-07-05 17:26:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋