My husband and I have been married for almost 6 years and our daughter just turned one on saturday....maybe it is just a stage...but she does not want him to do anything with her other than play...she looks to me for all her "NEEDS"....is it because he didn;t spend alot of time with her as an infant and she just views him as a friend or what??? I am not complaining...I would just like some help every once in a while!!! I cant even take a shower without putting her in there with me!!! Is seperation anxiety?? I work full time too!!!
2006-07-05 10:19:33 · 13 answers · asked by aconnor0517 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I went through the same thing with my daughter. Little girls want to be like mommy. My daughter always looked at the fact that we were both girls and daddy was a boy and girls stay with girls and boys do boy things. She is growing out of it now. I know what you mean about not being able to do anything without her. My daughter thinks if I go to the bathroom she needs to be there too. You are her security blanket. She likes to do what you do.
2006-07-05 15:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by missmindy25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your daughter seems to be going through is a mixture of things like seperation anxiety, getting attated to you after spending so much time together, or a lack of quality time with her father. Try bringing Dad into the mixture more, get her use to his presance. Also her aquainted with spending time with him so that way as she gets older she doesn't just depend on you. As the dad is there more she will start to trust him. If this does not help, seek a porfeshional.
2006-07-05 17:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Miss. TG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was the same way. It did make things more difficult for me but that's just the way it was. Babies almost always bond with the mommies first. Don't worry about it. My daugher is in elementary school now and has a very close relationship with her father. It is however, very different than her relationship with me. He is the protector. He will read with her and go for bike rides. I am the carer. I am the one she wants when she's sick or hurt. We shop together. It's just different. Not to worry.
2006-07-05 17:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children always look the father like a friend because in most of the cases the mother is taking care of all the "needs" since they are babies, so the kids are used to look for the mother when they need something. But when they want to have some fun they look fr the father.
2006-07-05 17:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by Chispita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oldest daughter was like that too.
When she was 13 months, I ended up getting really sick and was bedridden for about 3 months. She was FORCED to do things with him, which did help their relationshp. I wouldn't recommend you getting sick(LOL), but maybe he can spend time with her without you around at all, like at the park, ect.
It is a phase, as you know, and will get better, but you can help it along this way.
Also, my daughter is now 14 and still a Mommy's Girl, but she and Daddy are close too.
2006-07-05 17:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father worked night shifts and was TDY a lot while I was small. I always prefered my mother to him and sometimes would confuse other men in uniform with my father. Your husband might just need to spend more time with your daughter so she knows that he is her father and he takes care of her too.
2006-07-06 12:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by optimistic_dr3am3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal at least for a young girl to only want the mother, it was that way with my daughter until she was like almost 3 now she is daddys girl.
2006-07-05 17:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be rough, but you'll just have to wean her off of you, and start forcing her to look to her father for help also. When she comes running to you for something, send her to her father. Don't cave in and do it for her. She will learn that she has two parents that love her and want to help her. But be warned: It's going to be loud, and unhappy, and nerve-grating. You'll have to grin and bear it until it sinks in with her that she can't always have you.
Prepare yourself and your husband for tantrums, crying fits, sulking, and lack of sleep. About two weeks and things should be fine, as long as you don't cave in.
2006-07-05 17:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by VeJa_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its separation Anxiety, and that she loves you the most lol! I wouldn't be to worried about it, its a faze. but you can try just letting her dad feed her and even though she cry's let him deal with her while you are in the Shower
2006-07-05 17:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DID YOU NURSE HER? MY 16 MONTH OLD DAUGHTER WAS THE SAME WAY. THE BEST THING THAT HAPPENED FOR HER WAS TO GO TO DAYCARE AND INTERACT WITH OTHERS NOW SHE CAN GO PLACES WITH DAD AND DO STUFF WITH DAD WITHOUT ME BEING THERE. ID SAY PART OF IT IS THE BOND YOU CREATED WITH HER WHEN YOU NURSED HER AND THEN PART OF IT IS A FAZE MY DAUGHTER RECENTLY GREW OUT OF THIS ABOUT ONE MONTH AGO
2006-07-05 17:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by JazzyJ72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋