Okay... My mom told me that i can come and talk to her anytime about anything. Im 15 and you people out there know how teenagers are these days, they are already having sex. My mom had me when she was 16. I was to tell my mom that i want to be one birth control because i dont want to end up like her and have a baby at 16. How can i tell her this without making her think im already having sex? I mean, i dont want her to think any less of me, shes already thought about putting me on it but i never told her that i WANT to be put on it.. What do i do?
2006-07-05 10:16:38 · 10 answers · asked by *Chelsie* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
trust me she will prefer you looking after yourself than if you don't. Mums are there to help she wont think any less of you. After all she's a woman and she knows wat its like so she will be understanding.
2006-07-05 10:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since this happened to her, I think the best thing is to be honest. Let her know you are not having sex, but in order to get your body used to the pills before that time does come that you want to start them now. Also, let her know that you have not found that love that you want to have sex with yet, but ask her questions about it. Like for example, how does she feel about the possibility of you having sex and is it ok if you come to her with more questions when that time comes. She may be very happy to see the communication open that it may her help see that you are using your head and not just going to jump into bed with anybody just because you are on a pill. Be careful when taking the pill, it does some weird things to your moods, talk to her about those things as well. What are some things that she may have noticed that were side effects if she ever took the pill. In general be honest, responsible and mature about it. The best way to show anyone something is by example. If she sees you acting those ways it will make her feel more at ease.
2006-07-05 10:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by hannahonelove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh darlin'! I'm sorry that you're feeling like this. Sit down and tell momma exactly how you feel and where you're coming from. She'd appreciate and love you more for doing so. Parents tend to overreact sometimes, but in the end, they'll have your back. Once you and momma discuss everything, go and make an appointment to see your doctor and he or she can go over what methods of birth control are best. As a mother, I want my daughter to come and talk to me as well. It's better to go for birth control than for prenatal care at the age of 16. Good luck and happy health, baby.
2006-07-05 10:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult question based on not knowing the person. The best thing is to always be upfront and just say, you said we could talk and here I am. Tell her your situation that you feel that as you grow older there may be choice you want to make, but you also want to be safe in those choices. Take the responsiblitiy for yourself and just be honest. Parents are more willing to listen when they have gone through similar situations.
2006-07-05 10:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by JGIII 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, why are you having sex at 15? honey, any guy who tells you that having sex with him, proves you love him...is lying through his teeth! guys don't care about the consequinces of having sex, they just wanna get off! sorry for being so blunt, but it's the truth!!!
if you seriously want to continue having sex, then sit down and tell your mom that you feel that you need birth control. of course this will bring up the issue and the proverbial "Let's talk about sex" lecture, but that's the consequinces of having sex when you're 15. honey, to put it simply, there's no way you can get around this one without being completely and totally honest with your mother. she loves you, and she'll be more apt to trust you about this, if you are completely honest with her up front.
2006-07-05 10:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by dorian_gay82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you want to be put on it not becuz u are already having sex but because you think you might be ready soon and if you ever did do anything you dont want to have a baby when ur so young
2006-07-05 10:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Rubi V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Openly and honestly tell her what you feel and what you posted here (not THAT you posted here, it is irrelevant to the conversation). I could put words in your mouth, but then they are not yours, therefore the are not an honest reflection of your thoughts.
She will think differently about you, that is a given. Not worse, just different.
2006-07-05 10:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest. your mom loves you and will adjust. initially she might react with shock but after she thinks about it she will realize if you are asking then you need them...especially since she had a baby young. while we parents never want to think about our children having sex (aaaaaagh) what you are going through are natural biological feelings. remember when you do decide to start having sex, you also have to protect yourself against disease, and always respect yourself, never doing anything you don't want to. your body is your temple and you should always respect yourself.
2006-07-05 10:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by soulsista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will just tell my mother that you want her to put you on it so when you decide to have sex that you will be protected if the other person don't be protected and tell her when you decide to have sex you will tell her before you actually doing
2006-07-05 10:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Print this question and answer out and show it to her, and tell her that you'd like to have a woman to woman talk. She will appreciate your honesty and be glad that you trust her to help you with this. You sound very mature, and she should be proud of you. Good luck, honey.
2006-07-05 10:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋