how can you help a cutter?

Question

i am in trouble and i can't seem to help myself.......no one can help me here.......people have tried to help me but nothing works-----i want to change but it seems like it is all i have........i need advice what can i do?

can i do this alone?

Answer 1

Honey, you can't do this alone or with online help. You need to get professional help. This is really serious, you eventually will hurt yourself worse and worse until you do damage that is irreperable. Please get help now okay? ((((Hugs)))))

Answer 2

There are better ways to deal with troubles than cutting - healthier, long-lasting ways that don't leave a person with emotional and physical scars. The first step is to get help with the troubles that led to the cutting in the first place. Here are some ideas for doing that:

1. Tell someone. People who have stopped cutting often say the first step is the hardest - admitting to or talking about cutting. But they also say that after they open up about it, they often feel a great sense of relief. Choose someone you trust to talk to at first (a parent, school counselor, teacher, coach, doctor, or nurse). If it's too difficult to bring up the topic in person, write a note.

2. Identify the trouble that's triggering the cutting. Cutting is a way of reacting to emotional tension or pain. Try to figure out what feelings or situations are causing you to cut. Is it anger? Pressure to be perfect? Relationship trouble? A painful loss or trauma? Mean criticism or mistreatment? Identify the trouble you're having, then tell someone about it. Many people have trouble figuring this part out on their own. This is where a mental health professional can be helpful.

3. Ask for help. Tell someone that you want help dealing with your troubles and the cutting. If the person you ask doesn't help you get the assistance you need, ask someone else. Sometimes adults try to downplay the problems teens have or think they're just a phase. If you get the feeling this is happening to you, find another adult (such as a school counselor or nurse) who can make your case for you.

4. Work on it. Most people with deep emotional pain or distress need to work with a counselor or mental health professional to sort through strong feelings, heal past hurts, and to learn better ways to cope with life's stresses. One way to find a therapist or counselor is to ask at your doctor's office, at school, or at a mental health clinic in your community.

Although cutting can be a difficult pattern to break, it is possible. Getting professional help to overcome the problem doesn't mean that a person is weak or crazy. Therapists and counselors are trained to help people discover inner strengths that help them heal. These inner strengths can then be used to cope with life's other problems in a healthy way.

Answer 3

When I was in high school, I used to be a cutter. I didn't think I was skinny enough or pretty enough. I was angry inside and it was one way I knew how to take my anger out. Cutting never helps. It just leaves scars and that's what the devil wants. I didn't believe it at the time, but now i know that all the devil wants to do is try to destroy us. I wish someone had told me then what I know today that God loves us so much and you are perfect the way you are. He made you just the way He wanted you to be. You have special talents that he has gifted you with. If you want to stop, ask God to help you. Just say a little prayer to Him. I tell you what, media today is always trying to say, "Take this pill, it will help you stop smoking"...or "Take this pill to lose weight". If you want to stop, just believe in Him and ask Him to help you because I promise you, He will. He helped me.

Answer 4

No.. you need to find a healthy outlet for your frustrations and stresses. I recommend yoga, walking in a park, regular exercise, lots of sunshine, and if you still are struggling with life... set up an appointment with a therapist. As a former cutter.. you need to ask yourself .. do i really want to look at my body and see the scars and remember the pain that led yourself to hurt your own precicous body? NO.. you don't your body should be clean and healthy and exercise and finding peace within yourself is very critical at this time in your life. Many cutters hurt themselves because they feel ashamed because they feel they cannot handle/control things going on in their lives and they feel it is their fault when it is not! Get healthy! Exercise and find someone to talk to who will not be judgemental! Good luck and stay strong! ;)

Answer 5

More than likely you have had people other than your parents help you.... your parents are the ones you need to go to. It may seem embarrassing, but they will get you the help you need. Remember parents love you no matter what. If you don't have that option, then talk to your guidance counselor at school, or another adult you trust. You need to talk to someone. In addition to that, everytime you get the urge to cut, write in a journal instead. Write down what you are thinking and feeling instead of cutting. It may help. Good luck.

Answer 6

,You are trying to let the pain out, in private.
Find a better way to excise your pain.
If you are young you may not yet know what your pain is or where it came from or why it is for you.
When I was young I would stay in my room and do push ups or stretch, every one thought I was in good shape cause I worked out all the time, but I was just torturing myself. Well now I'm 47 and as I find myself along at night boy I just have to do a few more push ups.

Answer 7

Try answering back the person who have hurt you. Write down your problems. I know how you feel. I sometimes scratch myself to come down from the mental pain. Focus on the present for at least five minutes at a time. Stop wasting time regretting the past or worring about the future

Answer 8

Professional help is the only way. Go to a trusted friend, your mother, your aunt or someone and tell them you have a problem. Show them the evidence and get help before you seriously cause and injury which cannot be repaired.
Just because you are asking, means you are ready to get the help you need.

Answer 9

you need to get professional help. call a help line now! you are willing you need help right now and this is when you need to et it from those who know what they are doing.

I have included a phone number and a link for a suicide help line....not because I think you are at that point, but because they will have the tools to help you.

Call 1(800)SUICIDE [1-800-784-2433] for help, day or night.

Get in touch if there is anything else I can do.

Answer 10

You have to see a therapist. Ask a counselor at school to refer you if your parents wont. You are full of repressed anger and depression. There is help out there but it will take professional help to keep you from getting much worse.

Answer 11

You need help. Cutting is a serious problem and no you cannot stop alone. Try looking for a counselor in your area. Believe me, it will help.