i'm getting married soon. i was sure that i was doing the right thing not till someone (who apparently can tell future) told me that my fiance is not the right guy for me yet. not to mention, my family dislikes him as well. i love him though, but with all these, my excitement turned to fear instead. will i be doing the right thing if i marry him still despite my fear?
2006-07-05 10:10:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why doesn't your family like this person? Are you close to your family? If you are, then their judgement should be a big, giant, flashing, neon, warning sign. Not saying you should call off the wedding, but if you think that your friends & family might be right, you need to address those concerns. Friends & family can often see things that you can't - because you are blinded by love & lust.
If you truly think that they are just being protective and no one is right for you, then ignore them and prove them wrong. Good luck in whatever you decide!!!
2006-07-05 12:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you can live without this man, don't get married. If you have any doubts, explore them. Find someone to talk to who is impartial and can maybe ask you the questions you need to help clarify things for yourself. Also, why are you afraid? What about this scares you? Pinpoint that fear and you should be a long way to figuring out what's going on.
In the meantime, why not postpone the wedding and remain engaged? You're going to have to talk about this to your fiance anyway, so why not give yourselves the time you need?
2006-07-05 10:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doubts are never, ever good.
I assume you believe in "The One". The one person that is perfect for you in everyway. I should make it clear I do not. I think there are many people out there you could be exceedingly happy with. You can fall in love with many people and have a good life with them. The hard part in marriage is saying ok. I see that person in front of me who I could be happy with. But I promised to stay with the one I married. I am happy with him too. And I will be faithful like I promised.
If you are starting to doubt yourself or your marriage before you are even officially hitched there's a problem. But the question you have to ask yourself, is it you that is doubting or everyone else who is influencing you? Sit with your fiance and talk. Be honest about your fears. If he can make you feel better about it and even forget about it you are fine. Other reactions he makes you will have to be the judge of.
Short story - my hubby and I knew each other only three months before getting engaged and were together barely over a year before getting married. We had plenty of people telling us we were moving too fast. But never doubted it. We still don't. Other people have a strong influence on you, you just have to be able to seperate that.
2006-07-05 10:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had intense fear before my wedding, and I was listening to all the wrong advice.
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Only you can know if you're doing the wrong thing. If you don't feel comfortable marrying this man and you're positive it's more than just jitters, call the wedding off. It's better than just going through with it for the sake of going through with it!
2006-07-05 10:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 03:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by garfield 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where you really sure ? It took one word from someone and now your doubting it. If you were really sure you would have told that person they were crazy. Why are you doubting it now ? Never enter anything you have doubt over. Its a signal to you to wait.
2006-07-05 10:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget fortune tellers, they never know what they're talking about! god will give you disernment for what to do, so if you have any doubts, its probably him telling you not to do it...and i hate to say but if you get married when your family doesn't like him it'll be very difficult..anyways may god be with you regardless of what choice you make:)
2006-07-05 10:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by sweete_017 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts then don't do it and not to mention your family doesn't like him, that's always a sign too.
2006-07-05 14:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by ♥MyLife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to those around you who love you. If you have any fear at all then you shouldn't do it.
2006-07-05 12:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have ANY doubts about getting married, DON'T DO IT!!
2006-07-05 10:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Kiedis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋