have 2 kids.do not love partner at all.been together 14 years.financially i would be buggered on my own.find it hard to juggle part time work and children as it is.im scared of being on my own to im too weak,help!
2006-07-05 10:06:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yeah. Wait until both kids turn 18. They need a stable environment. They need both parents. One parent can live upstairs and one can live down stairs. You don't even have to speak. However, kids need two parents. (And they need both parents accessible at their beck and call. They shouldn't have to wait until the weekend, call ahead or have to drive to see daddy. )
If you're not going to listen to me, listen to statistics.
I think before you throw in the towel, try counseling. I mean if he's being abussive, doing drugs, or being a bad influence, then you need to leave (and move your kids out of there).
You created two people. Now you need to protect them and do what's right. That includes keeping it together until they are old enough to move out.
Good Luck!
2006-07-05 10:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't love him you should not stay because things will just get worst, plus the children can feel that their is no love their it might be hard because of the children, but you do not have to stay because you have children with him. Go out and find some true love, a guy that makes you and your kids happy. good luck
2006-07-12 05:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you some thing that helped me out when I felt it was all over, and there wasn't any chance of saving my marriage.
Most of us get married knowing our spouse. The good,the bad,and the ugly.
then we believe we can change and mold them onto that perfect person we've been looking for,and that's just selfish.
when I stopped wasting energy trying to change her,and spent that energy on changing my point of view. I was then able to See what a great person she really was.If you spend a lot of time saying why don't you do this, or that?
You miss out on the things they do wright.
so don't try to make your spouse into your dreams simply change your dreams into your spouse.
After learning to do that I love my wife More than ever.
2006-07-05 10:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jeremy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is an abusive relationship, which is causing all of the involved parties to be unhappy, miserable etc. then I would get out, if you just simply don't feel the love for the person, seek counseling, but if there is hate or whatever and abuse--get out!
2006-07-05 13:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by JerseyGirl4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think that it is wrong to stay with someone for the kids sake. Kids understand that and can sense that. If you are trying to raise strong children you have to be strong yourself. Stuggles are apart of life. ISo...if you feel you are too weak to do it by yourself and can deal with this bad relationship... and want to tell your children that is okay... stay with him. but you can only be weak for so long
2006-07-05 11:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kelé 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oviously you did love him at some point. Don't be selfish, think about your kids as long as he does not abuse you i will try to keep the relationship. You could try counseling or may be just talking to him, 14 years is s looong time I am SURE you can work it out if you TALK to him . LOVE is sacrifice .... remember
2006-07-05 10:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by xihuitl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this best friend that is going thru this, the girl is a pile of S*#T but he keeps going back to her even after she thru him in jail on false accusations. He went back to her, he says that it's because of his son. He has ruined our friendship over it. But I guess kids do need both of their parents to have a good functioning life.
I just don't understand it. but my mom and dad were great lovers all thru my life and still are so I guess I don't have the experience with it. Good Luck and REMEMBER KIDS ARE REALLY SMART AND CAN DETECT EVERYTHING>>
2006-07-05 11:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the children would be worth making the effort to go through marital counseling for.
2006-07-05 10:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by Witchy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as the situation wasn't abusive i would stay for the Children. But you have to do what you think is right and if that means you have to leave then leave. good luck
2006-07-05 10:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really sure you don't want to be with this person, then it's time to leave. The kids always know if you're not happy, so don't stay just for them. It just makes them miserable.
2006-07-05 10:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by jojof2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋