My mom once said, "Caleb, you're a nice guy. But there is just No MARKET". So girls, do girls like nice guys?

Question

My mom once said, "Caleb, you're a nice guy. But there is just No MARKET". So girls, do girls like nice guys? or is there just NO MARKET for them?

In response to one of the posts, I already knew the idea of taking advice from succesful guys, but my mom is a very wise woman. she's ussually right.

Answer 1

Nice guys are good actually, I've never really dated one yet, but I'm friends with alot of them. Don't give up just yet, who knows, she may be right infront of you. Good luck.

Answer 2

(I'm a guy, but I'm answering anyway)

It has a lot to do with age, and expectations.

For instance: my mother dated several guys, all of whom treated her badly. She got fed up, and her mother said "why don't you just find a nice guy and try dating him for a while?" The end result: she found my dad. They're still together, over 40 years later.

Another instance: I knew a girl in high school, and she and I just plain had no interest in each other. After college, we saw each other again, and hooked up. When we were in high school, we were insecure about ourselves and self-absorbed; after college, we were much happier with ourselves, and had opened ourselves up to positive experiences. It was a good relationship, one of the best I've had.

Finally: My now-wife and I are convinced that had we met even one year earlier, we wouldn't have hooked up, because we stumbled on each other at the opportune time -- she'd decided she wanted a nice, funny, intelligent guy...and I'd realized that I hadn't been a very nice guy and was making great strides in becoming one.

However, there's another wrinkle: if ALL you are is "nice", you won't get girls, because (a) nice is boring, and (b) nice is easy to fake. So a rich guy, or a good-looking guy, or an interesting guy, will get all the dates because they can fake nice (at least for a while), or because they ARE nice AND rich, or good-looking, or interesting. You get the idea.

So yeah, if you're running around thinking that being a nice guy should get you dates, you'll have no luck at all. What you need to be is a COMPLETE guy.

Here's what I mean: don't just be nice; be nice to people who deserve it, crack down on those who don't, and learn the difference. Live for yourself, and grow as a person -- get new hobbies, learn new skills, travel, read, and become a more confident and interesting person. Take an interest in your physical health and appearance, and do something about it. "Nice" is just one attractive quality in a person; get some others.

Answer 3

"Nice guys are good actually, I've never really dated one yet, but I'm friends with alot of them." That should tell you everything that you need to know. Being nice is not going to get you laid Caleb. Admit it. That's all you really want. It's ok. You can admit it to me. Your mom is right. Girls isn't a market for nice guys. It's kind of like dieters. Have you ever seen a fat person who talks about how they are going to go on a diet, but never do. That's the way it is with chicks. They talk so much about how they want nice guys, but what do they do? They fall for the first jerk that comes their way. SO, if you want a girl, be a jerk. Simple as that. Now, don't go hitting her or anything. Be irresponsible. Say you'll call her, and then don't call. Use back-handed compliments, such as "You know, I don't care what other people say about you, I don't think you're fat." or "I like your small breasts. Who needs those perfect sized breasts?" The trick is to whittle away at her self-esteem to a point where all she thinks that she can get is you. That's when you've got her hooked. Have a great day.

Answer 4

nicely, the girls that you're asking all appear like useful women, the area with maximum women is they might say that they favor a useful guy, yet they wont date one... They bypass for the adult males which have some obtrusive flaw so as that the female would nicely be the only female that become able to fix him (flaw = undesirable Boy type)... the area there is that the girls are lieing to themselves... To be trustworthy, I not in any respect truly dated till my senior year in extreme college, and that lady friend become older and already out of school... Even now, i'm courting a woman 3 years older then me... good success!

Answer 5

The most honest answer is a girl can give you is "No!" Most girls... and I emphasize MOST... like the guy who treats them like crap. Girls like drama and when they don't have the drama they either create it or they get bored and move on to the next guy. You should be the nice guy though because every girl eventually realizes that she can't keep playing games with love forever and she wakes up and realizes that the nice guy was there all along. You just have to be the nice guy but hang in there. Don't listen to what your mom says but it is going to be discouraging trying to wait for the girls to figure out it's a lot more then just drama... you need mutual repsect, love, and trust.

Answer 6

Yeah, it may be smaller than other dating markets, on both ends Nice guys- Girls who like nice guys. Stick it through you'll Find A girl, Just like I got my Nice Guy. :)

Answer 7

I married a nice guy, and he's been nice the entire time I've known him. We've been married 12 years and we're still going strong. There's hope, but there are alot of dumb women out there who want the bad boy, not sure why.

Answer 8

I do nice guys are better than guys u treat girls like dirt My man is a nice guy and I love him just be yourself prince and u will find your princess

Answer 9

yes , of course.
there is always a market for nice guys (nice guys with big wallets do even better).

Answer 10

I like nice guys but they cant be to nice. They have to be able to stick up for themselves and there girls.