Alright, well I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago. Now, we're back together again because I forgave him.. But the thing is, it has been REALLY awkward. When we talk, its usually short, and boring. I should be happy that we are back together, (sort of?) but then again talking to him is painful, really. He is like a completely different person. The guy I knew was funny, open, and honest. But now, he seems like he has changed a lot. He takes things so seriously, and over-analyzes everything I say. He takes things personally, and I honestly don't know what to do. This is not the guy I fell in love with! Will things change? I need some input from you guys!
2006-07-05 09:54:54 · 14 answers · asked by aLyxoxo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think your best bet is to stop limiting yourself to him, do not remain steady with him. Open yourself up to other guys, and show him that even though he's changed - so have you. Be more independent and maybe he'll see you for you. It sounds like he's not seeing you anymore as he used to, so show him a new you!
Plus, maybe if you stop being just HIS and show him that you're mingling with other guys that flame will come back and he'll want you more than ever. Otherwise, if he sees you're off on your own, doing your own thing and you're OKAY with out him, then he'll move on as well. Believe me - if you follow these instructions.. whatever happens will be for the best - with or without him.
Hope that helps!
2006-07-05 10:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give it a month or so, he may come back around...you all just broke up and got back together...for whatever he did, he probably feels really guilty and bad about. If it doesn't change by then I would say break it off as it will only get worse...
2006-07-05 17:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Workinmamma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably afraid, it's usually different the second time around in a relationship. Usually then don't end up working out. Maybe you should give it a little bit of time, but if it doesn't change, you'd probably be doing both of you a favor by ending it and finding someone else. Sorry
2006-07-05 16:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by pieninja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its the way he feels, perhaps that's why he did something that needed to be forgiven for, however, the fact of why he did what he did still remains...that is what needs to be fixed or its time to consider this relationship over. Talk with him , tell him you recognize he isn't the happy person you used to know...and that if its still possible you want that person back..good luck.
2006-07-05 17:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why did you break up with him? Depending on the reason maybe he still feels guilty about it or maybe he is worried that you are going to break up with him again... Without that piece of information it is hard to speculate too much as to why he is acting the way he is or whether he will change back to the guy you fell in love with... sorry that I can't tell you more.
2006-07-05 17:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What I think is that u and him should be friends. What I'm saying is if ur not happy then haveing a secound chance was not meant to be. move on. u guys can still keep in touch but as friends. Tell him how u feel and ask him how he feels. just talk and then if it does not work out then move on w/ ur life.
2006-07-05 17:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean are u happy with him now? If your mind is telling u this is not going to work out then u shouldn't try to make it work. After a couple has broken up and got back together, it's never going to be the same.
2006-07-05 17:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by Marquita J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
personally, i think u should break up with him again. if he's not the guy you wanted, then there u go. its a good thing that u found out how he can change sooner rather than later when things were much more serious. you would have been more heartbroken
2006-07-05 16:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um i would stay with him for like 2 or 3 more weeks and if he doesn't change then ask him whats up and if he won't tell you or you just don't want to work it out then break up!
2006-07-05 16:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by Wants2help! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's still seeing the other person. Dump him again and make it last this time.
2006-07-05 16:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋