I'm lacking confidence and it's getting in my way. What can I do?

Question

I'm 15 and everyone says i'm very pretty only it takes me ages to make new friends/boyfriends because i'm so self-conscious. What can I do to become more confident?

Answer 1

believe in yourself. be yourself.

Answer 2

Confidence comes with age and experience. If it's any help, I'm 50 and still have issues in this area. Many of my friends who are in the same age group, have been married for many years and are now divorced and single again are going through again what you are going through for the first time.

Just get out there and experience feeling self conscious. Get used to the feeling, learn from it. How do you feel when it happens, listen and pay attention to what your body is saying to you. Does your voice catch in your throat? Do you sweat? Do you have problems trying to come up with things to say? All are quite normal. We ALL do it. It's part of being human.

But the main thing, don't let the fear make the decision for you. Start now. When a warrior goes into combat, he or she does not leave fear behind, it follows them, they acknowledge it and control it.

Answer 3

Theres nothing wrong, it's normal to be self-conscious at your age, so don't worry. If you are pretty, that's something to be happy about. And remember, you're only fifteen, and in acouple of years you'll look back and smile to yourself, because confidence, friends, boys, etc. , will all come to you. Short-term, there are plenty of confidence-building books you can read.

Answer 4

well it really depends on what you're self-conscious about. If it's looks, there are things you can do about that. Go work out or something. If it's your social skills, then the only way to improve that is to go talk to people. You'll feel more comfortable, just try not to get so worked up

Answer 5

Start small and work your way up. I used to be REAL shy, then slowly came out. Begin by telling people "Hi!" and flow a conversation if you want. Do good deeds,.. helping someone carry groceries, find a missing kid wandering around a huge store,.. ect. will build up your confidence. Your help will be greatly appreciated.
Above all else, always be yourself. You can do those things listed above and maintain who you are. Best wishes, hottie! Self-denial goes nowhere. Step on the gas and GO!

Answer 6

I am 22 and I went through the very same thing as a teenager.Being lonley in teenagehood is what many ppl go through.you will grow out of it by the time your 18-19.I use to cry of lonliness as a teenager and before that ,but now i am surrounded by friends.So dont worry.

Answer 7

You need to realize that you're not unattractive. Getting over your self consciousness will be tough. It's just the matter of making yourself feel good and hopefully you'll grow out of it. Just do things that make you smile, it'll ease you out of your self-consciousness. Good luck cutie!

Answer 8

Invent a new persona that is not so different to you, but who has confidence. Just a teeny bit of bullshit can really help. Choose a tiny bit of someone who you admire and see where it goes. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Answer 9

Hang out with a new group of people at lunch or at the mall. You're a pretty cute guy, so it should be easy to make friends.

Answer 10

i was the same way thats why i never had many friends.but i learned you have to start likeing yourself.i don't know why people get so self-conscious but you will grow out of it

Answer 11

i know how you mean, do you know what pretend that other people arent there. be yourself and fcuk what other people think because frankly it doesnt matter. as for people you dont know screw them you'll never meet them again and if you they'll remeber you! i really hope you can find yourself cause it'll be then when you set yourself free and be who you want to be. dont worry about what people think cause it is none of there buisness is it!! good luck and just be yourself babe!!