I'm fat!! yes I said it..Can you help me loose weight?

Question

I had back surgery 3 months ago and I have gained about 40lbs. I cant excercise, because of the pain. I am in fear of loosing my husband because of the weight gain. I'll try any pill out there that is safe. I can't loose him, not for this reason. Please help me!!!

I had bone fusion back surgery and I do some water physical thearapy. I just want things back to normal and for my husband to be happy with me.

Answer 1

FIrst of all, what the other girl said about being there for the person you love in their darkest times is true. Second of all, I've lost 30 pounds the last couple months, so take me seriously. First of all, eat breakfast; people who eat breakfast burn 40% more calories than those that don't. Second of all, eat lots of vegetables, it's a lot of food, but very few to no calories (except potatoes), so it feels like you've eaten a lot, but very little is actually staying in your system or can be used by your body, and so just passes right through/out. It also helps to maintain, if not raise, your metabolism. Thirdly, if you've eaten some vegetables, and you're still really hungry, eat some meat or cheese, some kind of prootein, it'll help fill you up more, even if it is more calories. Fourthly, drink mostly water, NO non-diet sodas, preferrably no sodas. Many times people think they're very hungry when really they're just dehydrated, and sodas don't do anything to help rehydrate you, and might make it worse. I wouldn't recommend taking diet pills because you don't know how it'll interact with your other medications, and it'll give you too much energy since you can't move very much due to your back problems and it'll just make you restless, and start to feel a little insane. You also don't know how else ypur body would react to it too. If you can manage, just walking around a little can a BIG difference. Also, don't get depressed if you don't lose weight right away or feel like you're losing weight too slowly, or if you lose soem and then gain some back. It's much more difficult for girls to lose weight than boys, and it's natural for weight to vary a little. If you gain some back, then just go back to what was working. Counting calories is most definitely the way to go, don't eat out, eat from the grocery store. Limit your caloric intake to 1,000 calories a day; it's normally 2,000 calories a day. They're WAY too many calories in anything from a restaurant, even the salads now a days. Good luck! :) Feel free to e-mail me if you have any more questions. I understand your back problems, I have a friend who hurt her back too.

Answer 2

Upset no, annoy yes. But it's quite possible that your friend ISN'T just doing it for attention. She may actually believe that she's fat. Of course I can't see her for myself, so you're the best judge of this. But as an example, when I was 110 pounds I thought I was fat. What I actually was was curvy. But I looked at what appeared to be obscene amounts of extra flesh in places others didn't have it, and called it being fat. If What Not to Wear had been on TV then, I might actually have realized that at worst, I had figure flaws or issues that could be easily addressed by wearing the proper clothes. Not looking good in stretch pants doesn't make you fat.

Answer 3

First, if your husband is looking to leave because of weight issues, chances are there are some deeper issues at hand that he (and probably you, too) refuses to confront.
Since it has been 3 months and you are still experiencing some pain, you might want to try walking if it's not too difficult for you. I wouldn't advise anything too strenuous that may cause additional problems. Also, you may want to check with your doctor to see if you can start practicing Yogalates - a combination of Pilates and Yoga. These are stretching-type exercises that don't require a lot of physical exertion and have been quite effective in persons that have had back injuries.
One more thing, stress can also be a major weight-loss inhibitor. If you're stressed about your marriage, that may be adding to your weight woes. Don't worry about your husband leaving. If he's with you for the right reasons, then he'll be there for you thru thick and thin. If he leaves, it may be for the best.

Answer 4

I am so sorry to hear that. It's enough that you're dealing with the strain from the back surgery, now you have to contend with this! Well, has your husband said anything about your weight gain, even in concern?? Have you talked to him about how you're feeling? And how is he being supportive?

How is your mobility? Were you given at least physical therapy exercises to try? I mean it's not much, but it's a start.

Answer 5

Your husband should love you wether you are 150 or 400 pounds.

Don't go to pills. They are danagerous.

Become a vegetarian instead. You'll get more nutrients that your cells need, and you'll lose weight faster.

These are average physicians. http://www.pcrm.org/

Go to the 'health' link at the top.

Also get flax oil, and take 1 tablespoon in morning and 1 in afternoon. You will lose weight.

Generally our society has 'fat' fear, and its causing major problems. You need the omega 3's found in flax oil. You can get it at a local 'health' store.

Also take vitamin C every day. Its cheap, and you can find it at your pharmacy.

Answer 6

Can you walk? Just walking alone should be enough to lose that weight. But don't take pills!! Lose that weight naturally. If your husband is gonna leave because you gained weight AFTER AN OPERATION, use the weight as an advantage to KICK HIS @SS!! Let him leave, he doesn't deserve a wife if he's gonna leave after that.

Answer 7

Well, i say cut back eattin.. eat half of what u used 2 eat.. and try like walking a little.. instead of haveing somone else to bring u something from the other room try 2 walk and go get it your self.! your gettin some exercise then... but really cut back eattin is the main thing!

Answer 8

Hun No pill is safe, and why would your husband leave you because of gaining weight? if he was in love with you then weight wouldn't matter expecially since you just had surgery!

Answer 9

Where do you women get off thinking that a man wont leave because you've gotten fat!
It's his right to leave. If the shoe was on the other foot all the Women would be supportive if you wanted to leave your obese husband.

Answer 10

Well most diet pills probably don't even work and if they do, they're usually used with proper eating habits and exercise. I suggest going to see your doctor.

Also, if your husband loves you, he won't care if you gain weight. He'll love you because you're beautiful inside and he should know that.