For example, I went to his house last night; he acted happy to see me, but I got a kiss on the cheek - not a direct kiss, but the kind you would give a friend. Our relationship is really wonderful besides the affection, but it bothers me enough that it's become a problem for me. I've considered breaking up with him. I'm not sure if he is not affectionate as a part of his personality or if he's not interested in me; I think I previously was taking his sexual interest as affection and I know relationships don't stay in the "new" state forever. He is a great guy and I love him, but I find myself distancing myself from him. When I think about his lack of affection, I cry. Help!! This is probably the best relationship I've ever had besides the affection. Should I talk to him, which I have in the past or just trust my instict and give up? We've been dating about 6 months.
2006-07-05 09:23:12 · 4 answers · asked by prinnrei 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DEFINATELY confront him! My bf and i have been together about 6 months too, and faced the same issue sortof..... He would be really affectionate in private but when we'd be out with all our mutual friends, he'd be sooo distant that it bothered me! I confronted him, and it ended up leading to a really intense convo that lasted a couple hours about our relationship; us both saying what we really thought and felt and all of which had been laying silent for the past months.... So talk to him, it might open up something y'all didn't even know was an issue, and when it gets resolved, things will get much better. Hope everything goes well!
2006-07-05 09:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by sillygoose08 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might try telling him how you feel and laying the cards on the table tell him that you want to know what it is he feels for you, and tell him how much the affection thing is bothering, actions speak louder than words..you might be confusing yourself because he has all the qualities you want in a man but he lacks the affection which might be an indication that all he wants from you is sex, it might be he also has a problem showing emotions, some people are that way, maybe you should teach him..
2006-07-05 16:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take the bull by the horns. You need to be the one to be more affectionate and not wait for him to do so. Kiss him like you want to be kissed, hug him like you want to be hugged, in fact you should go just a little bit overboard so he realizes that it is okay to be that way.
If that doesn't work you need to sit down with him and have a talk as to why he isn't more affectionate. It is possible that he has a childhood of abuse (I dated a girl like that and she HATED to be touched) or it could be that he is confused about sex in general and his feelings towards it. But you need to talk about it.
2006-07-05 16:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's be realistic. He may have an underlying reason why. Talk to him but be firm about it. Let him know you have needs in this relationship too. If he cares for you truly he will be upfront and honest with you. If not...you may have to reevaluate the situation and what YOU really want.
2006-07-05 16:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋