i have been with someone for two years. he cheated but promised to never do it again. now he wants to marry me! i know i care so deeply for him. i cant picture my future without him. we are so close. its like we are one. we do everything together. i cant sleep with out him. i feel like a failure compared to the girl he cheated on me with and i feel like my future if it aint for him is screwed. when we kiss i dont feel sparks ne more. but i love kissing him. but he doesnt kno what he wants. he wants a house, he wants to move back to his old town, he wants to be anurse, he wants to be a realtor, he wants to own his own company, he wants kids!
he is my boyfriends brother...i know its not right, but this is how he makes me feel, he makes me feel feminine, beautiful and ALIVE like my life is actually worth living. but i feel like i would never be good enough. i have out of the blue dreams that we kiss, and i can literally feel butterflies in my stomach and like i am floating
2006-07-05 09:21:37 · 14 answers · asked by Martin2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
here is wat i want in life. Happiness, and to be loved back, respect from the one i love...a successful career. i want to help others. i picture myself being a big deal in the world. i want to do everything i can in life. but i want to do it with that special someone.
2006-07-05 09:26:18 · update #1
I LOVE THE ANSWERS they ARE SO TRUE! but then why do i wanna cry?
2006-07-05 09:29:03 · update #2
Love - a condition or phenomenon of emotional primacy, or absolute value. Love generally includes an emotion of intense attraction to another person. Love can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. Love is commonly considered impossible to define.
True love - love without motive, condition or attachment. The object is to cultivate loving kindness (love without attachment, non-exclusive love). Someone who is in true love will not be easily angered and can quickly subdue anger that arises. They will be more caring, more loving, and more likely to love unconditionally.
2006-07-05 09:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... Reality check. Love is never hurtful, love is never unkind,love is NEVER Confused. Love is not about kissing and feeling sparks... After a while when the sparks flicker .. what will you be left with? And since you quoted "I know it's not right" then you have a choice to remove yourself from the situation before you end up with DEEP regrets... which is where you'll be headed if you don't end this madness now. Love is more than how someone makes you feel physically. If you're young (16-25) you have quite a long way to go (if you don't get help) before you can appreciate the seriousness of some of your statements. Here are some of your red flags (by red flag, I mean RED ALERT/Danger!) statements:
1) He cheated
2) Now he wants to marry me (please compare #2 with # 5).
3) I feel like a failure compared to the girl he cheated on me with (he cheated and "you" feel like a failure... Hummmm also, unless I'm missing something... please compare #3 with # 6)
4) I feel like my future if it aint for him is screwed... (WOW!)
5)He doesn't know what he wants (Another WOW!, please compare #5 with # 2)
6) He is my "boyfriends" brother (Huh??? Negative Drama!...so you're cheating too? compare #6 with #3)
7) I know it's not right. (Ok.... so why continue in behavior that "not right"?)
8) He makes me feel feminine, beautiful and alive, like my life is actually worth living... (Just really disturbing, this statement alone reaks of issues and you should definitely seek out counseling .... seriously. Your life being "worth anything" is not contingent upon how someone else feels about you. Your worth a whole lot because you're God's creation and He loves you and sent his Son to die for you. Your worth a WHOLE lot because you were created for a specific purpose, and only you can fulfill that purpose)
9) I feel like I would never be good enough (definite cry for help)
Please... Please... Please consider Christian counseling or therapy. No intention is meant to offend, just seriously consider seeking professional help.
2006-07-05 16:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I think that the best source is to turn to the only person who can truly comprehend love. One of my favorite verses is John 15:13. "Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one's life for his friends." Read Song of Solomon and 1 Corinthians 13 for two beautiful pictures of true love.
If you are having such strong feelings for another person you really need to be honest with your current boyfriend. It sounds as if you are cheating on him at least mentally. It's not fair to any of you.
Get involved in a local church if you are not already. If God is what is tying you together then you will know if the love is real.
2006-07-05 16:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by Seeking answers in Him 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true love is when you can't stop thinking about the guy. and you can't stand to be apart and when you are it is like your heart is breaking. when you can look in your partners eyes and get this warm tingly feeling and your heart flutters. when you will give up everything you have to make the other person happy or do anything in your power to be there no matter. when the problem is either big or small and you can still work it out as one togeather and know that everything is going to be alright. when you can just hold each other and the world disappears right before your eyes and it's only you and him standing there. that is true love
2006-07-05 16:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by short.lil_momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not lightening, but the beginning of your light forever
as far as dark is from day or bright is from night.
Love is not a summit, but a steady mountain rising from you to
fill my soul beyond space or understanding.
Love is not a moment, but the every day you open my mouth
and let me taste the fruit of your soul's deepest roots.
Love is not a feeling, but a thousand things you make our home of
with the touch of your hands like a nest from a dove.
Love is not paradise, but the struggle of all time not to lose
hope in what is not perfect yet is purest truth:
Love does good, or is not.
2006-07-09 00:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by B.C.CHASE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is all of the feelings you described. I found love recently and my new husband is indeed a miracle. In order to be in Love you have to understand the sacrifice of putting your feelings aside for the sake of the commitment(marriage). Things will come to the both of you after you get married. This is a guarantee because GOD honors marriage and it is the highest covenant between God & man & woman together. "If " you can forgive him for his past mistake you guys will be alright. Forgiveness is not bringing it up again, but moving on to believe for greater things. Pray to GOD about making the decision and he should to. My husband and I both prayed and His prayer was that if I was supposed to be his wife, that I call I called the next day. No Lie. Always talk and agree about decisions. Include each other about every decision unless it is a surprise gift or something like that. Know that with time the relationship will grow in Love and your desires.
We have both been married 2x and we are so very happy.!!!!!!!!
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2006-07-05 16:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by EmyLee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you got it bad. You love him.Love is when 2 people connenct and when two people can tell eachother everything or anything no matter how bad it is.True love is similar but you can feel its just right to be with him like kissing or holding hand or anything that shows how much you like one another.
2006-07-05 16:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl....one thing for sure is... Love isnt supposed to be that complicated.
If it doesnt feel right...or if anything at all about the relationship feels wrong...then its wrong.
The brother thing is just that.....an escape from what you already know in your heart is doomed to failure.
You need to get out....and start all over.
someday.....I'll tell you what true love is all about.
2006-07-05 16:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing. There are other feelings that can be confused as love or true love, but I have never witnessed true love or anything that resembles it. Good Luck!
2006-07-05 16:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by tiger_skratch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are having these thoughts about another guy, and the BF's brother at that..then you are obviously not in true love with your bf..
True love to me is, when you feel complete trust in your partner..you KNOW they will never intentionally hurt you, you know they will always have your back, and you have complete safety with them.. you've surrendered yourself to them, completely. With no regrets.
2006-07-05 16:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋