Im dating this guy and were still young. Hes had sex with another girl but now he wants to have sex wiht me. I love him but I dont really want to. I also dont want to leave him, so what should i do?
2006-07-05 09:10:43 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sex is a big thing and no one should rush you into it. even though he is not you are thinking that maybe you should so you don't loose him.you need to think whether or not he is the one that will be your first.that is something that you will remember for the rest of your life.if he leaves then there are many other men out there and as you get older you will realize it. i just do not want you to regret your childhood over sex.
2006-07-05 09:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by Amry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you are young but you don't say HOW young. I HATE hearing about girls out there trying to get involved in sex so young. I am going to answer your question WITH a question. Why don't the young girls out there regard themselves as strong human beings and feel such a strong need to have sex because they think it is LOVE? Sex is not always love and you should ask the guys on here for TRUE answers. Ask them "do you or have you EVER used a girl for sex but lead her to believe you cared for her?" See what kind of a response you get. I'm not saying all guys are bad or anything in any way whatsoever but they are a different species LOL.
2006-07-05 16:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to don't do it. If he's going to leave you, it won't matter if you have sex with him or not. And if he does leave would you rather he takes a couple of months of your life or your virginity with him when he goes? Seriously I think almost every woman that has lost her virginity before marriage has regretted it. If you already have doubts think how you will feel afterward! I lost my virginity young, and I loved him sooo much. Well a couple of months later he and his parents moved. I have never seen or talked to him since. And when I got married I didn't have that to give to my husband. Also after the first time you are not so cautious about who you sleep with, so one person turns into 2 then 5....pretty soon every guy you date it's not a matter of IF you'll sleep with him but WHEN.
2006-07-05 16:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since he's had a taste for sex and you haven't then he will be a little persistent. If you ain't ready for sex in your life right now, don't. Never lower your standers and judgement for anyone, if he loves you then he can wait. That's just how I feel.
2006-07-05 16:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by HotTherapist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know him how you really feel about sex, and how important it is for you to build a great emotional relationship before you get further into a physical one. Also listen to what he has to say. If he has a totally different view, and can't accept yours maybe he is not right for you. Otherwise he will wait.
2006-07-05 16:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hold out until YOU feel comfortable. You don't know if he really has done it before and he may just be trying to get you to do it. Guys use sex as a kind of emotional trap for girls. They use our emotions against us and then we let them get away with murder. Think about it carefully.
2006-07-05 16:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by living this life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that u dont feel like having sex with him now. And request him not to force u in this matter.
2006-07-05 16:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Aniroll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to have sex. Then say no. If he pushes, obviously he is not the right person. And you deserve best. If he doesn't push. Then maybe in the future it will happen. But, it will happen when you are ready and not when it is convenient for him.
2006-07-05 16:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by kitty kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him , if he just with you for the sex , he can go look for other girl. You love him , im ready for that You have think about your future, you neve know if u do it , i happen you get pregnant and
said im not ready for that.
the most beautiful thing respect in both part.
take care
2006-07-05 16:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by Friend from heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready then dont do it. It looks to me like he is using you just to get sex.
2006-07-05 16:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by Diabla 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋