My x and i have been broken up for serveral months now throughout the months i have been there for her and asking her to get back together, but we couldnt come to an agreement. Now since i have given up trying, she has been real nice to me. she had the tendency to be nice to pull me close to her than act like a ***** when we are getting too close. i went on a trip and when i return i got an email with pics of her and her family. WHY??
why is she doing this?
what should i say or do in this situation???????
PS i know she an x for a reason but part of me misses her and will like a second chance but i m confuse
2006-07-05 09:03:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a control issue. She doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to have you or for you to move on. She'll continue to do this until she meets someone else and moves on. AT this time, you'll never hear from her again.
She doesn't sound like a very nice lady. You're right- she's an ex for a reason. I know it will be VERY hard, if you still love her, but act busy when she calls, don't respond to her e-mails right away ( If at all).
You can test my theory- Next time you talk to her , tell her you met someone. It's nothing serious yet but you met someone. She'll all of a sudden "realize" she wants you back. Some women are like this. You dont need it.
2006-07-05 09:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so classic they should it in teach Psych 101. The second you show independence from a girl she wants you more.
It is an emotional trap, like you said when you guys get closer again she will be a ***** again. My best advice is you two need some serious time apart, you two are still too emotionally attached that why you two keep playing these games. Your best bet is to take some serious time apart, like a few months with out seeing, talking or e-mailing each other. Then maybe four or five months later you two can see with clearer head if you can stay friends or should keep dating or if you just need to stay away from each other.
2006-07-05 09:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she is confused too. Just be her friend, but work on living a life away from her. If it's meant for you to be together, then the time apart will be good for you. The "push/pull" game is immature and it seems the time away might help her grow up a little too.
2006-07-05 09:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right - she is an X for a reason. Sounds like you should just cut your ties and give her some time to grow up to be a woman instead of a controlling little girl.
2006-07-05 09:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by robinc1117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she isn't ready to give it another chance u can't force her. If you a good guy then i am pretty sure you can find someone out there that wouldn't treat you like sh*t. It is up to you but i hope you make the right decision if you want to chat email at raynak_09@yahoo.com.
2006-07-05 09:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, she is an X for a reason. She just doesn't want to lose (all a game to her) is the reason why she keeps playing with your mind. Be wise and move on, the earlier the better.
2006-07-05 09:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by wallyade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls like to play games. She knows you want her back, and since she knows she has all the control and she is taking full advantage of it. Her main goal is to drive you crazy. I bet if you left her alone for a while and didn't try and persue her you would be in control (that is if you want to play her little game). Women like to be in control and when they are not they don't know what to do. Take it away and see what happens. Act like you don't care anymore and you don't want to play her stupid games, then see what happens.
Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-05 09:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from a girls point of view i think she is trying to test you out. Girls want to be needed, it's in our nature. when you are calling her and needing her that is when she is acting mean right. but then we you stop calling her she acts all nice. she wants your attention still, that is all she is trying to get. tell her how you feel. if she just wants to be friends then move on.
2006-07-05 09:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by kimber g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm..well maybe she still likes u shes just 2 embaressed 2 show her true feelingf or maybe she still likes u just she needs time .....obviously she stll cares a litttle bit about u so give her time and au 2 will be toghther again someday !!!
2006-07-05 09:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to leave you alone. You need to move on and find a nice girl. It's always girls like this, that make it hard for us nice girls.
2006-07-05 09:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋