Why is it that girls use dudes? Alright I can get girls but they either use me for my money or my looks. Is there atleast one girl that could judge me for my personality cuzz girls say i'm sweet and i'm really a good boyfriend. But other girls use me. So is there atleast one girl that doesn't use someone for looks or money.
2006-07-05 09:01:52 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are lots of girls that won't use you for your looks or money. Find a girl that is very pretty that has her own money. What is it about you that is attracting the wrong kind of girl to you? Maybe you could join some clubs or look for girls in a different place than where you are finding them now. Good Luck!
2006-07-05 09:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever. Its not our nature. Its society and how that girl was brought up. I am from the south and most women in the south have problems of doing too much for a man when he aint about nothing. And they end up taking care of them and working while he is chillin sleeping on the couch all day. Too answer your question. ....you just have to be careful who you choose and where you pick your girlfriend at. Try a place where you would normally not look for a date. Like at the library, or a bookstore, or something like that. Most men are intimidated by a stronger smarter women. But most of the time these are the women that judge people by their personality. Try asking more questions and see what kind of intelligence they have before taking them out. It a girl is too quick to say yes its because she is looking at the outward appearance and not getting to know you real you.
2006-07-05 09:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, stop looking for Miss Right Now, and look for someone that is going to appreciate you for who you are. If you don't want them to use you for your money, don't flash it around for a while. Don't look like a deadbeat, but don't take them to expensive clubs or restaurants, or buy them things. Make homemade cards, or write them something. If they don't respect you, then move on. She's out there, just change the places you're looking. Best of luck on finding a girl who makes you feel like a million bucks, rather than draining your bank account dry. :)
2006-07-05 09:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by bibliophile_1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you let them?
Girls don't want to be with a dude that is a total push-over, we want someone who is going to be assertive. Not controlling, or agressive, but ASSERTIVE... Which means you don't take crap from them at all!
Yes, we like to be spoiled (a little) - but you can't overdo things at all... I mean, if someone told you that they were going to pay for EVERYTHING, wouldn't you have a hard time passing that up?
Seriously - you will find someone that values your looks, ambitions, wealth, and everything else that you have to offer, and not exploit you... You just have to weed out the bad ones to get to the good!
2006-07-05 09:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kerr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl and I would rather have a dude that doesn't have a lot of money. It take off pressure, because most guys would use there money as an advantage.
2006-07-05 09:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by redneck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going for the wrong kind of girl. Sure there are nasty scanks out there in it for money or material items, but not all girls are like that. But, if I had to bet -- you are only going after the very hot, meanwhile you prob know very sweet but less attractive girls
2006-07-05 09:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe thats all you're offering them. Maybe you're not showing them your sweet side and trying to impress them with your money and good looks. We all only get what we give. So I would take a look at myself and try to pin down the reason why I'm only attracting shallow women.
2006-07-05 09:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U've gotta toughen up Dude.
Don't give them the chance 2 use U in the first place by learning 2 say No, every once & a while.
2006-07-05 09:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude just do what i do. i come from a family of money. my parents are very wealthy. when i was dating and i met a girl she did not know i had alot of money until i told her because i wanted to make sure she wanted to be with me for me and who i am and not what i could give her.
2006-07-05 09:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're going for the wrong girls. try to change your female preferences or keep on patentily waiting for the right girl. as for the money thing...easy, don't spend too much. hold on to your money, you'll be thankful later in life.
2006-07-05 09:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by punkrocker490 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋