I got pretty wasted last night and called my boyfriend of two months and said something ridiculously stupid, but he won't tell me what. He's obviously upset and being distant and such, and I have no idea what to do. I want things to be the way they were, and I really want it to work out. We've been friends for ages, and I don't know what I'd do without him. What should I do?
2006-07-05 08:55:38 · 39 answers · asked by howfaralice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well that was a pretty stupid thing to do in the first place, I think you just have to give him time to get over it. There's not much else you can do except don't do it again.
2006-07-05 08:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by pieninja 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, tell him that you feel horrible for causing him to feel badly and that you are desperate to make amends. However, you can't do so until he tells you what it is that caused him to be upset. He has to take the first step and you have to accept that he just may need some time before he is ready to deal with it.
On another note, you may want to reconsider drinking to the excess that you cannot remember what happened to you. Many sad consequences have been caused by this to many good people. I shudder when I think of the life opportunities lost by someone in exchange for even one night of 'getting wasted'. For some, legal trouble or pregnancy could cost them a job or educational opportunities. For others, it results in death or serious injury to themselves or someone they love. In this case, it may have cost you the person you care for.
2006-07-05 09:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by Big Papi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a ****** Alcoholic's Anonymous meeting moron...you sound like an alcoholic...I should know, I am one and it sounds like you are too...
He should dump your drunkin *** until such time as you can stay sober...You think it is funny now, but you will remember what I have said right now...that I promise.
Because alcoholism is a disease that gets progressively worse, not better.
I know you will not quit now, because it is not bad enough and I know you think I am full of ****, but I have seen it all.
A few years from now you will know what I am talking about, and You Will remember what I have just told you...mark my word, you can take that to the bank..
2006-07-05 09:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you completely not remember what you said? It sounds like your problem is not only w/ your boyfriend but also booze. That's probably why your boyfriend's upset. Or it could be that he's been wanting to break up with you and he's using this "stupid thing you said" as an excuse to get out of it.
2006-07-05 09:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Carly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's alcoholic. What he become earlier has grow to be a reminiscence. Now he's an alcoholic, and think ofyou've got to leave him now earlier something a lot extra serious occurs. he is going to be indignant that you're leaving him, so do not have any contact with him in any respect. If he has something of yours, kiss it see you later. in case you try to get it back from him, he will damage you; do not imagine that he gained't. His habit is evidence of the undeniable actuality that he can grow to be violent. contact the Al-Anon communities for advice on a thanks to get over this tragedy of yours. What you're dealing with isn't all that uncommon, regrettably. i have been there, so i understand what you're dealing with.
2016-10-14 03:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by garfield 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey..why will he not tell you what you said??? Are you sure you even said something i mean i know you was drunk and you don't know but i would ask him why he couldn't tell you... thats stupid...i would just tell him look i was drunk i didn't mean to. I am sorry, and wait for him to get over it. Thats really all you can do. But since you don't know what you said...you really need to find out! Good Luck!!! Hope it goes good for you
2006-07-05 09:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by victoria2chat2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for a couple of days then call him and talk to him about it. Let him know that what ever it was that you said was not meant to be said and you did not mean to hurt him.
Let him know that you would be more able to properly applogize if he could let you know what you said that hurt him so badly. Also, tell him and MEAN IT that you are going to be cutting back on the drinking.
Good luck.
2006-07-05 09:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by *meh* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and let him know that you really need to talk to him and if he agrees just tell him that you was so drunk and out of it that you didn't know what you were saying and let him no that you don't want to lose him as a bf or friend
2006-07-05 09:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by lasondraperry-graham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless while drunk you were overly honest and told him you cheated, he should get over it, keep trying, but not in a pushy way and write him a letter again appologizing and ask him to share what you said so as to be able to make it right.
2006-07-05 09:02:36 · answer #9 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being dramatic...it seems you may have said too much, or said something that deflated his ego. Tell him there's no way for you to understand what to improve or explain until you know what it is that you said did. Even if what you said is bad, he should be man enough to tell you what that was. If this goes on, tell him you care about him, and you don't want to play games--just tell me what the hell I said?
2006-07-05 08:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Drew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true. People will tell the truth when they are drunk. Most people know this. All you can do is apologize for whatever it was. But you don't KNOW what it was. Number one rule.....never pick up the phone while drunk.
2006-07-05 08:59:41 · answer #11 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋