My brother just passed away recently. His wife wants his family and her to slip the cost. What'cd think?

Answer 1

Family is always family and should help each other out no matter what.........

Answer 2

Mom and Dad shared the cost of their wedding. I don't see what'd be wrong with that. A friend in another country had a Mom visiing America, while she passed away in the States. The curator called HIM, even though he has 20 brothers and sisters (combined). He couldn't get her body shipped over seas, unless he got the siblings to help on the cost of his mothers body processing. A cost of $5000 USD!! A load is EASILY lifted by MANY.

Answer 3

First, there should be some life insurance to help out with funeral expenses. That should be the first use of life insurance.

After that, it would be good for your family to offer with costs and help, as you are able, the widow with her children. She is part of your family, after all, as are her children. If your brother had lost his wife instead of the other way around, you'd be keen to help him.

It is understandable for her to be testy at a difficult time like this, and while it may be rude for her to ask for help in certain ways, other ways are to be expected. After all, she has lost her husband, lover and best friend, and now must fend by herself for herself and her children.

Whatever you can do to help would be appreciated, and would be the moral high ground.

Answer 4

I assume you meant "split the cost". In which case, if she is having money troubles (funerals can be very expensive) then it is entirely appropriate for her to discuss the matter with his family. Of course, if the family is unable to assist, then she should already know that and understand. I think that you should all come together at this time, help out, and try to help each other through it.

Answer 5

My brother passed away 2 years ago. Although he wasn't married, me and my sisters paid for the cremation, and urn ect. We also split the cost of his burial at sea (he was a former Navy Seaman). Here is a tip, with burial's costing around 10g's easy and most of that in the casket, if it is not against your families beliefs or against your brothers wishes, go with creamation. It cost only 2500.00 for my brother and the most of that cost was the transportation cost of the coroner. The creamation was free. Just a thought and my deepest sympathies to you and your family.

Answer 6

This is a difficult time for you and her. Please be gentile with yourself in this difficult time your facing. Also, find ways to be gentile with your other loved ones.

Money is always about the emotions behind the money, and to me I am hearing that your sister-in-law wants to feel that she is still part of your family even though your brothers living life does not link you all together. However, I do not have an understanding of the relationship between you and your sister-in-law ... this is the point in this relationship where it is decided how deep of a loving bond you want to have with her.

Her request is really a request to unite herself to you and your family. It's your turn to let her know how much you love her.

Answer 7

Think that is fine...if there was an insurance policy out on him that she is collecting she should use that to pay off the bills for the funeral and other additional costs. People will give her money anyway they always do at a funeral that I know of to help with extra costs...especially if it was unexpected...sorry for your loss!

Answer 8

even though your brother passed she is still part of the family, and no bond is stronger than family!! of course the family shoud help with the cost....its so tragic these days...everyone is ONLY worried about MONEY!!!!

Answer 9

do you mean split the cost? if so, then I think that is probably her responsibility, although the family may want to help out

Answer 10

Funerals are very expensive; if she can't afford it, there's nothing wrong with asking family to help.