im gonna ask this question again...with more detail.he has a nice job, he DID graduate high school,he isn't just the type that only wants in my pants and i rally do love him and even though im 13 i actually do understand the concept of love unlike alot of 13 you might know so please dont judge his or my behavior if you dont know us.
2006-07-05 08:36:33 · 34 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX If you like him and value his freedom you will stay as far away from his as possible. You are a minor. He is an ADULT. HE WILL GO TO JAIL FOR A VERY LONG TIME FOR BEING WITH YOU> THAT IS THE LAW.! XXXXXX I hope you are smart enough to understand that.
2006-07-05 08:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't pretend you're so special and sophisticated. Every 13-year-old thinks that. Leave him alone and get a guy closer to your own age. Just because he doesn't want in your pants now, does'n't mean he won't ever--no discredit to him, I'm just saying that after about a year or so, he'll probably want to. In a typical relationship, that would be all well and good, but under you guys' circumstances, the repurcussions could be a lot more dire.
Even if that's NOT an issue AT ALL, it will still probably be too much social pressure for both of you to force yourselves into dealing with.
The bottom line is, this is all my opinion, so you can heed it if you want, but I'm warning you there are a looooot of consequences to have to endure. And even if the relationship is in all otherwise just like a normal relationship, it could just as easily end with you being empty-handed, broken-hearted and full of a lot of regret--all possible by-products of any relationship, but in this case, once again, potentially worse.
Just ask yourself: "is it really worth it?" If you can truly answer yes to that question, then there's really nothing anybody can say to stop you.
Either way, best of luck.
2006-07-05 08:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by jermaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be very mature but keep in mind that at the age of 13 you are not. Not so long ago, at 13 I thought I was superior to all of my elders and that was a big mistake. Now I regret acting the way I did. Don't make the same mistake, you are young so don't try to act like an adult. The point is that he is 22 and the fact that he is considereing dating someone that is nearely half his age is a warning sign. Although you and your friends probably feel that dating an older man is a huge accomplisment it is not. Think about it this way: when you turn 22 will you want to be dating a 13 year old boy? and by the way men are always thinking about sex it is in their nature! They love the thought of dating a virgin and being the one to deflower her. And if both of you are so ready to intiate this relationship have him come to your parents and ask for their permission (as I am sure you are sneaking around). Ask for their advice rather than random individuals online.
2006-07-05 08:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do your parents think about this? Do they know? Does he feel the same way about you? Just so you know, a 22 year old could get in ALOT of trouble for messing with a 13 year old. Again-do your parents know about this? Personally, I do not think you should be with a 22 year old. There will come a time, even if you do love this guy, that you will want to live a little, have fun, go out, and he will be past all that when you are old enough to go out. Be careful.
2006-07-05 08:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u should not be but trust me its not that I'm judging you...it might work out for a while but as you grow older you will change u may not think so but even if you are very mature for your age people always change a little when they grow older i have grown in so many different ways in the past 3 years i have seen a noticeable difference in my self and my views on things and i am 27 years old so trust me when i say people change....now i believe you really love him by the way u r talking but in the long run i really don't think it would work your interests may be the same right now but u have to remember he will change too when you r still interested in these things he will be moving on to a whole new thing and there is no way to stop that from happening ....i don't think that age usually matters but 13 is a very long way from 22 ...of course you can only listen to your self but i would recommend not doing it because in the long run you will get hurt and if he loves you he should understand this already maybe he just loves you so much that hes blinded by it but u should talk to him and i bet if hes honest he will see and under stand what i am saying....either way good luck i wish you all the happiness u deserve!!
2006-07-05 08:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know either of you. But I can say that a 22 year old shouldn't be 'hanging around' a 13 year old. And I hate to tell you this,but for him, a large part of your relationship would be about sex and it's against the law. You are an easy target because you are young. If your parents find out, which they will eventually, imagine the kind of trouble he will be in...If you have any type of feelings for him, you shouldn't want to get him in trouble. If your feelings are true, they will still be true when you are legally old enought to have a relationship with him.
2006-07-05 08:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by vbrink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude trust me, i understand you love him and that he may not try to just get into your pants but he wants to. the fact that he graduated from high school means he's seen alot more than you have and done alot more than you have. but the fact that he's 22, well that's illegal and im sorry but you shouldn't be dating him :(.
i have to deal with that road block in about a year. my boyfriend is 17 and im 14 i love him so much but i know that after he turns 18 i cant be with him the way i want to be and it kills me inside to think about, but you've crossed the line. he could be arrested if the police find out that he's with a 13 year old girl. just think of him and the fact that you dont want him to get into any trouble k.
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2006-07-05 08:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie no, even-though you think you have something in common you don't. You may think you know love but you don't trust me I went through it. 13 and 22 are worlds apart and maybe it's isn't about the sex but he can do a lot more than you and has experienced a lot more than you so he is either going to use you or leave because you aren't advanced enough but if you do choose to stay with him keep your guard up don't let him get to close and don't let him take advantage off you. sex, money anything.
2006-07-05 08:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by taramara12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 and know what love is like? Well honey you got to understand that you are a just a young lady and you have many years of dating in front of you. Right now you are illegel! If you where with him he could be put in jail. If you guys really love each other he will what on you and you will what for him. If he don't love you he will not. love is something that you have to think about.
2006-07-05 08:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by Only M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are very young. You need to live life to the fullest. Don't fall for anyone who is out of high school already. And why the hell does he want a 13 year old. You know, he could be put in jail for this...and if your parents were to find out...bad news.
2006-07-05 08:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by party girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because you can cause him to go to jail for a really long time, i wouldn't want to put somebody i love in that situation. and believe me, all 13 year olds think they know what love is, i was one of them. trust me, your better off without. you have hit a dangerous phase in your life. be careful, your feelings will betray you. and trust me on this, the only way a man is going to date someone so young, he is either a pedifile or cant get someone his own age. if you were 16, i would be for it, but 13 is just too young for a 22 year old man, your body hasn't even finished developing yet. if you decide to go for it anyway, please be careful.
2006-07-05 08:50:41 · answer #11 · answered by stephanie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋