i live with my dad and would like to live with my mom, how do i do this?

Question

alright so, i believe my parents have joint custody over me so im not sure if that would make this any easier. My dad is unreasonable and always tells me to talk out my problems with him and whenever I try to he always yells at me and turns things around to make it seem like everything is my fault and he's always right no matter what. I guess what he does is called emotional abuse? im not sure... He makes me cry..ALOT and im not a very sensitive person sumtimes he makes me cry more than twice in a day, he likes to yell at me when i try to explain myself when he thinks somthing is more than it really is. I feel I can trust my mom and tell her things i'd never tell my dad even if it isn't a bad thing.I also believe that since I am a teenage girl i should have a right to live with my mom because she went through what I am going through or possibly will go through as I grow up. My main point is that i feel safer and more at ease when im around my mother and my stepdad.

Answer 1

You just have to get up the courage and tell him you would like to live with your mom. If that is not an option then you need to tell your mom. She can take it back to court and you will have a chance to tell a judge why you want to live with your mom. Good luck.

Answer 2

Very simple, talk to you mom and say I want to live with you. If she accepts it then your dad will have no choice. He can fight he can go to court but the courts will weigh in HEAVILY with your opinion. (This is assuming that your Mother wouldn't have any reason not to have you live with her such as a criminal background, or lack of money to support the both of you)

This happened to 14 years ago, I wanted to go live with my dad because my mother had too many rules. And there was nothing the courts or my mother could do. And I moved out and lived with my dad for a whole year before I realized that I actually had it good at my mom's and moved back home after having a heart to heart with her.

Alternately you can talk to you dad and tell him that you want to move in with your mom because he yells at you so much. Ask him to listen and not talk until your done and let him know how you feel.

Do not accuse him of anything, simply state how he makes you feel, there is a chance you can work it out.

Answer 3

There is already a lot of great advice on this page. Talk to your mom. Tell her what is going on at home with your dad. I know joint custody can be difficult to deal with but if you really do not feel safe at your dad's house, get the courts involved. No one deserves to live in a home where they dont' feel safe. And that is emotional abuse.

Answer 4

Develop some new friendships; it seems your dad is an abusive individual---if he assaults you, go to the police. If living with him is unbearable, you can petition the court either by yourself or thru your mom to amend custody provisions.

One way to deal with it when yr dad blames you is to stand up to him and say something like---I appreciate your opinion but I do not agree with it. Also make him aware that he is given to fault-finding, and you are looking to him really for constructive advice. Above all, be in control. Crying does not help. It is not yr fault your parents are divorced and it is not yr fault yr father is an abusive individual.

Good luck.

Answer 5

depending on where you live i do believe that in most states you have to be atleast 13 to make that decision. But i think that what you have to do is go to your mother tell her how you feel and that you want to live with her. from there you can write a letter to a judge in your area telling him how you feel and the circumstances in your life and then the judge will take it from there. and yes in sounds as if you dad emotionally abuses you believe i have been through it with exb's. good luck and keep your spirits up. by the way try not to tell your dad about it till he gets a letter from the judge it may make things worse.

Answer 6

You need to make a copy of this statement and show it to your mother. If you are over 13, you have the right to stay where you want but it might have to go to court to get it done legally.

Children have rights too. Check out this site and see if it helps.

Answer 7

choose wherever you feel most comfortable with. don't let anybody harm, degrade or make you feel at your worst!!! try reporting him to organizations or community services. what he's doing is definitely not the right thing. everybody deserves to be happy. LIFE has so much to offer and you won't be able to discover it unless you're feeling all down and neglected. Tell your mom about it and live with her. I hope you get this resolved soon.

Answer 8

i think the age is 13 but it might be different where you live when you can just choose where you want to live w/out going to court. i have the same problem. if i try to tell my dad something he turns it around and acts like EVERYTHING is my fault, even more than just the problem. im 15 so i can choose where i want to live. dunno the age where you are though. good luck!

Answer 9

Depends on how old you are,in certain states once you reach a certain age you can tell the court who you want to live with,research this info in your state then tell your mom to hire you a lawyer,Good luck God bless:O)

Answer 10

I was in the same situation kind of............i lived with my dad and step mom for 3 yrs my step mom was horrible to me, but u know one day i just had enough and i knew i would be happier with my mom and step dad so i just flat out told my dad, I'm not happy here and i want to live with my mom. he was upset but he you know you have to think what is going to make you happy not him. Just tell him!!
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