i cant help it...ill like see a hot guy and then ill find out he's like 34 or something...is this weird?
2006-07-05 08:30:48 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
duh..and its not illegal unless you do it with him..duh
2006-07-05 08:32:42 · update #1
Jeesh. Everyone on here is trying to pull a Freud and telling you that you don't have a father figure or that it's illegal.
It's perfectly fine. And don't let anyone tell you different. If it still bugs you, consider this: After Pirates of the Caribbean came out, every teenage girl was obsessed with Johnny Depp. Yet he has 2 kids and is in his 40s. Nothing's wrong with you. I wouldn't act on these feelings though, because you are under the legal age limit - but it's okay to be curious and to look. No one can or should judge you for being attracted to who you are - and teenage boys are sex-obsessed, selfish, and nothing compared to older men who are secure and mature. I say cheers and keep looking!
2006-07-05 08:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by Rio 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I was always attracted to "older" guys too. In fact my 1st husband was 14 years older than me.
When you are 15 there is a really big maturity gap to 30. There is a LOT of life experience you haven't had that he has. When you are 30 and the guy is 45 that gap closes up a lot. However right now you are jail bait. Until you are 18 stick to guys closer to your age. Then when you become "legal" you can experiment by going out with all different ages.
2006-07-05 08:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I don't know where you are from, but where I am from, that IS illegal!! That is not just weird, but very wrong. They can go to jail in a heart beat around this part of the country. If you was at least 18, there would be no problem, but any thing under 18, that is a problem!!! What is it that you think you have to be around someone that old when you are only 15?
2006-07-05 08:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are older, you will find out secrets about attraction. However, I'm gonna share one with you right now. Age doesn't matter when you are over 18 years old. Most states have an Age of Consent that says that you can't agree to be in a relationship w/someone who is older than 18 years if you are younger than 18 years. Sometimes guys look better when they are more mature or older because they have already gone through and gotten over their akward pimply state. Attraction is a normal thing. Don't be worried about it.
2006-07-05 08:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sassy Says:
I think that when you are young you dont use your best judgement.. I understand that boys your age are really obnoxious.. It is hard but my advice is to maybe find a guy in his early 20's or maybe like 17-18 years old... If a guy in his 30's is hot for you there is definatly something wrong with him, he is probibly a perv. It is one thing to think some one is attractive and it is another to date a person who is 15 years your elder. Trust me dont do it. When I was 14 I looked like I was 18-19 and I could even buy ciggerettes without I.D but i dated older guys and ended up in a long abusive relationship, Its not worth finding out!
2006-07-05 08:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by Free & Sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal. In other countries it's even acceptable. Age is an invisible thing really. It's funny, I was almost arrested when I turned 18 and my girlfriend of 3 years would be 17 in a month. All of a sudden it was illegal to express our love. How rediculous is that?
I guess you just have to be smart about it. Do what makes sense to you. But don't ruin a mans life when he doesn't want to continue beyond sex.
2006-07-05 08:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by C P R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weird? Not too much. What you've got going on is an infatuation with father figures. Do you have a male parent at home, or are your folks separated, or does he work a lot and is rarely around?
Its perfectly natural, but for your sake and the sake of these older men, you MUST NOT act on these attractions. It is not emotionally healthy, nor is it legal - it could get those men in a LOT of trouble if they ever responded sexually to your advances.
2006-07-05 08:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its common for younger women to feel that way, This stemms from a variety of areas, one such common area is the father-daughter relationship, how strong or weak it is will either propel your feelings for older guys or not also, Lack of a father figure in your life could attribute this attraction to older men to fill in this gap but the bottom line is, it is not weird however before you go any further ask your self, Is this an attraction or is this infatuation?
2006-07-05 08:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by Latitude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear...
In theory it should not be a problem, in many cultures older guys like teen aged women and that is somewhat socially accpetable(but not in the US).
The only problem here is that in many states, you sleeping w a guy could cause him to be accused of rape or something because of the age difference and you being under the age of consent. So maybe for now you should settle for the younger boys until u are 18.
2006-07-05 08:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by mraei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not weird, however it is not wise. Fantasy is one thing, acting out is another. Any 30 year old man who would actually want to have a relationship with a 15 year old is someone to beware of. It usually means they can't substain a relationship with a woman their own age....because of maturity issues. Not to mention, they are willing to possibly committ a criminal act. You having the attraction is common. You are growing up and maturing and looking for more mature relationships.
2006-07-05 08:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋