I live in california, and a lil over a year ago I started getting interested in other types of guys..but the only thing is I find it somewhat difficult finding other nationalties who like to date black girls..black guys can easily get with other races but for us it's hard. I hear some people say negative things about black girls..so I thought that maybe they are scared to date us because of what they heard..I'm a really nice girl though..out here a lot of black guys say rude things about us and they barely date black girls anymore..so with that being said I noticed how black girls started to do what the black guys are doing which is dating outside of their race but its harder for us.We all aren't bad people..is there a certain way we should act to attract white guys, latino guys, asians ect.?? me and some friends noticed that when a black girl acts more like a white girl they can get with white guys easier but thats not how we act..please help!!
2006-07-05 08:23:58 · 15 answers · asked by Babii 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I decided to add something else after reading some of the answers..I am a nice girl, I'm not ghetto, rude, loud or any of those things people so often enough think about us which is wrong because we are not ALL like that..I know a lot of descent black girls and guys who aren't ghetto..I'm really kool so I heard lol but please keep that in mind, if you decide to answer :)
2006-07-05 08:45:16 · update #1
Little sister, I know how you feel to a certain extent. I have always dated outside my race. Even as a teenager I dated lots of different guys with backgrounds different than my own. I got it real bad from other black guys and black girls that I knew or went to school with.
It's true that black women have a lot of stereotypes put on them. We're loud, we're ignorant, we're ghetto, we're welfare queens, we're all teen mothers and all our kids have different daddy's, we have no class, you can't take us any where, we always dress like sluts, we all want to be "video hoe's" and other crap like that.
I'm not that and i'm sure you're not that either. But it's there. And it acutally falls on sisters such as ourselves to break those stereotypes by being edgucated and takeing care of ourselvs and being cultured.
It's good to date outside of your race. It show's that your not closed minded. It actually says i'm open to learning about other races and cultures as well as my own.
As far as advice, I can only tell you this. Be yourself. Stay yourself. Don't "act" a certain way for the sake of somone else. What you can do is try you best to be genuine. Stay true to you. Another thing you can do is to not play into the stereotypes. Just because you're black does'nt mean you're automatically ghetto. So don't be ghetto if you're not. Just because you're black does'nt mean you have to run around classless and a baby machine. If that's not you young lady then don't be that.
I'm African American and I would'nt choose to be anything else....but everyone I know will tell you i'm not your stereotypical black female. I don't fall into any negitive stereotypes. Neither should you. You should want to not be a negitive stereotype.
As far as dating men outside your race, just do it. If you like a guy, let him know. If he says some crap about not dating black girls, ask him why. Then let him know that that's not you and it's unfair to HIM to miss out on you.
Good luck little sister. I hope this helps you out!
2006-07-05 08:46:08 · answer #1 · answered by ilah23 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much acting like a white girl that would attract a white man, but acting like a lady. Of course I don't speak for all white men, but that is what I think is probably the "typical" (or stereotypical) reason. A few years ago, I had a huge crush on a black girl at my school because she was a sweet, pretty, and nice girl. I never thought she 'acted white,' just that she was nice. I think a lot of women, particularly black women, think that being a strong, independent woman means that you have to be obnoxious, and that just is not an attractive quality. It may get you what you want in the short term, but in the long run, not so much.
2006-07-05 08:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Very interesting question. I live in CA and am Filipino. I've thought about dating a black girl. I have no problems with it at all. It's really in the attitude you have. If you are a person with the same types of interests as me and I can get along with, then sure we can date. But if you are going to be one of those black girls that snap your fingers and yell out the N-word (I had a neighbor who kept doing that) to every black person on the street, then no. In fact, I just don't like it at all under any circumstance. I like people to just be people.
Think of it this way, when you go fishing, you use a particular type of bait to catch a particular kind of fish. What kind of bait are you using? It's all in the attitude.
2006-07-05 08:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
ohh.. tough. well, our world is full of selfish messed up people who have absolutely no idea how people of different skins act. For example, I have a friend whos black and she is such a sweetheart. You just gotta find the right guy. Cuz guys are.. well, guys. Thats just the way some people function. Good luck !
2006-07-05 08:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Alot of my black female friends are dating white and latino guys and a lot of my black male friends are dating white females. I also live in California (Southern). Just be yourself and exprese intrest in a man (of any race) and they will show intrest back.
It's life. Things will get better
2006-07-05 08:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta find the right guy. I work w/ a white boy that loves him some black chicks. Just depends on the person.
2006-07-05 08:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One thing you're doing all wrong is trying to figure out how you should act to get a man. There's no other way to be besides yourself. Try hangin out where other races hang out and be patient. Whatever you do, be yourself, and trust me the outcome will always be better.
2006-07-05 08:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by mamacita 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
things must be different in the left coast. In D.C. everybody wants a black woman, but not if she's ghetto. But there are lots of classy sisters around here so everybody wants one.
2006-07-05 08:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
u do have a point but the reason is america is rascist and black men talk us down to be nothing and white men sometimes think we are not woman enough for them to date.
2006-07-05 08:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by maha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know im hella attracted to black women, well women in general. but i think its because black people in general are the biggest racist. no disrespect. ive never met a black girl who was interested in dating me. im good lookin, educated, have 2 jobs, car, home, and 7 inches. lol.and its trouble. because black guys are very jealous and threaten us guys. im not intimidated at all. and got into plenty of fights.
2006-07-05 08:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋