My kids are afraid of their Dad?

Question

because they see his angry temper all the time at their brother and now ex-wife and current GF, can I keep them from visiting that environment?

I wrote the Judge and told him everything some more than I have let any of you know. I filed a motion for changing legal custody and placement. I told the judge I have the kids at their specific request.

Answer 1

Not if he has been granted visitation in a parenting plan unless you get a restraining order or change the parenting plan.

Ok, don't ever write to a judge directly that is sitting on a case you have before the court. If the judge reads the letter, he may very well recluse himself from the case. A judge can not have communication with either party outside of the court room. If that happens, it will only slow things down as the case gets reassigned. Call the clerk and ask the clerk to intercept the letter before it is read.

You can normally petition the court for an emergency restraining order if the circumstances warrant such action.

Answer 2

Absolutely! If you truely feel this is not a safe and healthy environment for your kids, and you want them to be kept out of that situation, you can do a number of things. Get their feelings and mental affects recorded by a professional. Take them to a psychologist and have him do a psychological profile on them. Tell the councellor what is going on and that you need professional information to show the court that this terrible situation is having a terrible affect on the kids. Talk to their teachers and obtain documentation (behavior and grades, etc.) to show the negative affect there. Anything you can get your hands on that shows how detrimental the situation is to the well being of the kids. PRovide proof the court can not argue with, not just your opinion. Courts do not put much stock in what ex's say about eachother but they will lift an eyebrow at documented fact given by professionals. Not to mention the fact that you cared enough to get it for the sake of ensuring the best situation for your kids! going that extra mile or two will make you look that much better and the situation that much worse and give you the best results for the sakes of your kids! You can also demand that his visitation be by a certain schedule AND in a supervised environment which will reduce that element and still keep him in their lives.

Answer 3

You can take action if the enviroment is unhealthy for the well being of the children. verbal abuse is in many forms and even if his anger is not directed toward them could effect their social behaviour. You will have to go to court and have his visitation right revoked. In which case they will question the children usually in the judges chambers and if they have a fear of their father chances are the judge will side with you.

Answer 4

Until the court can decide what they are gonna do take the kids and file a restraining order against him,that should stall the process for awhile,Good luck God bless:O)

Answer 5

Has he threatened violence or physical harm to the children? Is there cause for a restraining order to be in place?
If you have real concerns for their safety and
well-being, then this may be a question that is best answered by an attorney and your local law enforcement officials.

Answer 6

Maybe if they are old enough they can tell him themselves. He probably wouldn't like to hear it from you. You could go to court to change visitation arrangements if you have witnesses to his behavior.

Answer 7

Good lord. I should think so. That is not a healthy relationship. Could they see him somewhere else? That might help.

Answer 8

then keep them away for a while