ok i was seeing this guy who was in the Navy (ok wasn't seeing him we started having feeling for each other while he was on a ship in Iraq) Our relationship progressed via mail and calls.....we got quite close...a few weeks before he came home he said we needed to slow down so we didn't do anything we'd regret while he was home. So we saw each other once and after that he didn't talk to me for several months......now he wants to talk again apologizing for what he did saying he was getting to close and didn't wanna put me thru the life he has (he is gone for 6mos at a time) should I believe him and see him now when he comes home? or do you think its just a males attempting to get in a girls pants? please help and be nice haha who knows you may get more than just a measley 2pts!
2006-07-05 08:14:09 · 9 answers · asked by McRach 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well here is how I see it, after being in an almost similar sitution...taking things slow, a day at a time, is always the best...whether you are in a relationship or not....Be friends with him! Continue to talk and write one another, but put your life first! You only get one shot at living, yet many shots with relationships...If you take it slow and focus on YOUR life and priorities, it will all pay off in the end....:)
2006-07-05 08:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had he seen a picture of you before you met? Sounds mean, but men are very visual. Did he get a little distant when he saw a pic of you? If he DID see you beforehand, he might be trying to let you down easy, but the excuse of being away for long periods of time rarely if ever stops a man, to be honest. You might need to have a brutally honest talk with him and just ask him really, really tough questions. Be upfront and if he wants to stop the relationship, give him that option too. If he wanted to "get in your pants", he had his chance. I suspect he wasn't happy with what he saw and you probably need to ask him if that is true. Get your answers, because life is short and you seem real sweet and kind and have no time to waste...certainly not another 6 months.
2006-07-05 08:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard to say. Having a relationship via mail and phone is difficult. I do doubt that he is trying to get in your pants since he didn't try to when he came back. Sure it was messed up that he just didn't keep in touch but he might have been right and just didn't want to rush anything. I would say see how he is and then if something doesn't seem right go from there.
2006-07-05 08:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by talkshoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he genuinely cares bout u. Being with anyone when distance and time is involved is very complicated and not for to be taken lightly. He might have also been afraid of himself getting attached to u. It sounds like you should sit down with him the next time you have the opportunity and clear the air. Be honest with eachother and see whree the relationship goes from there.
2006-07-05 08:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See him when he gets home, but don't let him get in your pants until you're sure he means business. Guys in the service are lonely & he's probably missing you for more than just sex. He actually sounds like a nice guy - give him a chance & good luck!
2006-07-05 08:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by msgene61@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should continue being his friend and just take things slow. Him being away for 6 months is not easy. Especially if you start a relationship. Give it time. He could be telling you the truth. You need to trust yourself and go with your feelings. You need to remember that him being in the service is not easy.
2006-07-05 08:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he really cares for u and if he is in the Navy sure he is gonna be gone alot so he was just letting you know what would happen if you guys got closer, that was a good move by him. Believe him!
2006-07-05 08:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by miss ingie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a difficult question but if it was me I wouldn't be bothered with him because YOU COME FIRST and with him gone 6 months at a time why waste your time. Life is too short for all that because you're barely ever going to see him. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-05 08:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT!...it sounds like he is telling ya a story. Find another close to home or tell him to wait until he's out of the Navy.
2006-07-05 08:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by jonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋