My dad told me if I moved 6 hours away from my home town that he would take care of me. I'm 19 but he was missing out of my life from age 7 to 14. I accepted, got down here, he told me I had to move out soon, because his mother-in-law was coming down to stay with them, I moved out and now I can barely afford the apartment I'm living in. What do you think about your dad and what should I do about mine?
Mom wants me to come back home and they just cut my hourse at work from 50 (which means 10 overtime) to 40 (which means NO overtime)!!
2006-07-05 08:12:23 · 14 answers · asked by jenn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 20 now...whoops...I was 19 when I moved in with him....sorry. I just had a b-day I've confused myself.
2006-07-05 08:18:13 · update #1
Another thing is....I bought a house last year that's being remodelled so it's kind of silly to be paying double rent you know?
2006-07-05 08:19:06 · update #2
Jenn - Wait a second sweetie, you're asking how other people feel about their Dad, but really your question is: How do I handle this situation that my dad got ME into? So he gets you down to where he lives with his wife and then you have to move after moving from your hometown; after being told he would take care of you, after forgiving him for being father in absentia for 7 years and now he's putting his wifes Mom in front of you. A woman who has no blood ties to, a person he is not AT all responsible for. HmmmJenn, What do you think I'm thinking about this? Screw him; If you can't afford to stay there, chalk it up to a very valuable life lesson. You have plenty of time to consider how this will affect your decisions in your life going forward. It sounds like in this whole triumverent, you are the only one with any sense besides your Mom, and thank God she doesn't get weird like some women do if kids want to shuck everything for some romantic notion that their Dad is going to be a cross between Superman and the Lone Ranger with a bit of Father Knows best thrown in. It saddens me that you're going through this, it really pisses me off that your Dad could be so selfish AGAIN! And just to warn you, based on what you've said already, his take on this is going to be no big deal!! Jenn was fine, she can take care of herself, that's my girl. So be very thankful for your Mom right now, and decide financially what could possibly work for you. If you could tolerate living with Mom I would highly recommend it for just a little while.. Jenn Good Luck, I hope I didn't seem too harsh, It's just my ex did something very similar to our son. I was already resentful of the fact that my Ex didn't pay any child support, had full access to see Matt, never took it, then promised him something big and then didn't follow through. It sounds cliche, but really, that which doesn't kill you DOES make you stronger and right now I see a 19 year with a much better moral compass than her father. Chin up sweetpea! Sid
2006-07-06 02:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 12⤊ 0⤋
My father died three years ago. We didn't have a good relationship but if I had a chance to do things over again maybe
it could be better. It's one of my biggest regrets.
As for your dad,he doesn't exactly sound like Father of the Year.
I'm sure he didn't know his mother-in-law was going to move in
when he made the offer to you,but just the same you're the one
who's paying for it. Maybe you should take your mom up on her
offer until you find something back in the home town,move on from there. If your dad objects,tough. He had his chance,for
whatever reason it didn't work out. Now you have to take care of yourself.
2006-07-05 16:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my dad and there is nothing he wouldn't do for me. You should talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel and then move back home with your mom. Your dad can have his mother in law.
2006-07-05 15:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by lex83201 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think of him as a good, religious and trustworthy person because he doesn't worry too much of his problems because he knows that God will help him... He's also in the Philippines for a half a year already... I really miss him...
2006-07-05 15:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by `| ..bheiibhiie love.. | 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't seem very nice, making you move out for that. And then you have to pay your entire rent on your own? Move with your mom
2006-07-05 15:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love my dad alot..in fact i love my mom alot also...it sounds like your father was trying to be a big part of your life (or make up for the years he missed out on) and a situation arose...if you are having financial problems what about having alittle heart to heart with your dad, maybe he can help?
2006-07-05 15:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by destinys_final 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i havent seen my dad scence i was 4.He drinks :( i really want to see him but i never told mom that i do:(:(:(:(:( i want to meet him and tell him how i feel, like when i get married i know he wont be there! I only have memories and a bracelet he gave me when i was first born!
2006-07-05 15:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by Rated R Diva ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love him but he has A LOT of problems.
2006-07-05 16:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by heaven25star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine is an asshole...and hes lazy and cheap...i hate him...
(sorry for the language)
2006-07-05 15:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad...I don't have one.
I think you better high tail it back with your mom if you can't make it on your own.
2006-07-05 15:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by adnerb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋