I used to be slim and men used to look at me. I'm now overweight and a guy has never looked at me. It's either because they don't find me attractive or perhaps it could be that I just don't feel attractive so don't give off good vibes to guys.
2006-07-05 08:06:28 · 28 answers · asked by Mrs Joaquin Phoenix 1 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
as long as your short then that what i find attractive. most guys see girls as either skinny or fat, i see girls as either short or tall. so if your short and skinny or short and chubby, then i would think youre cute
2006-07-05 08:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by dtstuff9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men like curvy women with naturally large breasts and so they like women who are on the heavy end of the normal weight range but not real overweight. There are a few that do like big girls, there is a fetish for everything. Several more that can get over being so superficial but as a general rule no men do not find women attractive unless they are thin.
In any case it is probably not anything you are doing. There have been a lot of experiments done on this and men consistently treat women according to their outward appearances, not behaviors or personalities. If you are a big girl and you want a guy, you simply have to know what guys to "give the vibes to" and ignore the others as they would you. It can actually be a good thing as you will be restricted to sweet, unsuperficial men that will love you for who you are inside. You of course have to be equally sweet and unsuperficial and open to truly loving some one in a way few perfectly beautiful people ever do.
2006-07-05 15:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men like bigger women. Others don't mind as long as there is a personality. Maybe you have allowed yourself to be negative because of a weight issue and that is showing. I know people might not believe this but you can give off "vibes" to people. You are thinking that you were attractive because you were slim and now you have decided you can not be attractive because you are not slim any more. That is the "you" that other people see now. You need to be positive and realise that you are still the same person and the only thing that has changed is your size which is not imprtant(well as long as you are still healthy of course.)
2006-07-05 15:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Evil J.Twin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel attractive you give off vibes, You'll walk taller and have an air about you. When you feel un attractive you look gloomy, and as if the weight of the world is on you're shoulders.
I feel that only the decent men out there find a woman attractive if they are confident and happy with themselves. If you are looking for a good man he will be attacted the confident, bubbly person you can be.
The only men who don't are shallow, and is this the kind of man you want?
2006-07-05 15:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by ka ka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is most likely the second. If you feel attractive then you will be more attractive.
I have a friend that is quite a big girl and she attracts a lot of male attention, so really there are blokes out there that like a bit of meat on the frame so to speak.
Of course, that doesn't mean you shouldn't try to lose weight, your health and general happiness would improve. Just don't feel bad because you aren't some stick model, because most blokes like something to grab, not bones in a sack.
2006-07-05 15:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the looks start to fade you become more about who you are as a person. That doesn't mean much if you're looking to make the easy score at a club or on the beach, but if you're looking for a relationship, it means ALOT. That guy who might not have looked beyond the surface, not expected more than was on the surface and not offered more than was on their surface is going to be replaced by the guy who has reason to look a little deeper. He, and you, will benefit from that.
2006-07-05 15:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by DR 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some men find overweight girls attractive. However, it is not as common. There is no real statistical figure, but if you are overweight do expect your choices of partners to be limited due to that.
2006-07-06 23:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by quatin1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes - some men do find "overweight" girls attractive.
But the question I think you should be asking - is do you feel attractive being overweight.
If not then you should do something about it - you will then be able to feel good about yourself - and you will be healthier as well.
2006-07-05 15:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by trevb1256 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all about being confident im a big girl but get a good amount of attention just show of your best assets either bum or boobs and dont wear unflattering clothes. if you feel happy and dont give a damn you will find more people will respond and stop looking as it will give off bad vibes just go out and enjoy yourself.
2006-07-05 15:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by mischief_fairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,a lot of men ,including myself find ladies with junoesque figures quite attractive, far more so than the scrawny things that "fashion" says is" the norm", so keep smiling gorgeous.
2006-07-05 15:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...well I've lost over 60 pounds but I'm in no means a skinny girl. i still have a long way to go but i know I'm not a skinny girl right now. i still have guys hit on me and everything like that. u might not have guys noticing you because ur not feeling so good about urself. embrace ur beauty.
2006-07-05 15:49:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋