If or when you have children...?

Question

...would you spoil them w/ gifts? Think about it first. I want good answers, b/c I'm givin' 10 pts for this one!

Answer 1

I would spoil them with gifts but you also have to show your love to them in other ways buying them gifts is not always gonna make them happy

Answer 2

I would have to say that that is a double edge sword of a question, reasons being that your damned if you do and damned if you don't. Some ppl will say no only because (I feel) that most spoiled chidren are a result of a too busy society, sorta like hush gifts so in that aspect I would say no. If the "spoiling" (I feel) is done in a reward type setting fallowed by the understanding that this only for good behavior not for attention or bad behavior or get away I'm tring to work thing or please don't cry ...here, then I think a little bit of "spoiling" can't hurt. Ithink moderation is the key and it's pretty much all in how it's worded. Words are funny that way. I might add that in my statment of being a double edge sword, in my passings of ppl I've seen that if you do not "spoil" at all then you are deemed as not caring. This may not apply to others as they see it but this how I see it. I have a two year old boy and so far yes I have "spoiled" him however I refer back to the word "spoil" is it spoiling him if the countless toys I've gotten him aid him in his basic of learning skills, to him they are toys and gifts to me I see a child progresing in all areas of development. At two years of age he knows all of the basic colors and can point them out. He says please and thank you. He can say whole sentences clear as day. To me if thats the result of "spoiling" so be it. In short go with what you feel is right for your child because they are all so different in so many ways.

Answer 3

No, absolutely not. I think gift are appropriate for certain occasions, and when a child has accomplished something, or behaved in an exemplary way. Kids who are spoiled really turn out rotten. An very wise person once told me that your job as a parent is not be the child's friend, it is to TRAIN the child. Then if you train them well, when they are older, you'll be friends.

Have you ever noticed that people who weren't forced to work hard in order to get the things they want when they were young, rarely apply themselves and work hard. They are always looking for an easy way, a shortcut, expecting that they don't have to start at the bottom and work their way up. It's sad. Some parents just RUIN their children, and prevent them from becoming productive members of society.

Answer 4

I'm not sure it's so much buying them gifts that spoils them, and it's not easy not to spoil them. I have a 6 y/o and my husband and I have always made a good living and have been able to provide for her more than she needs and almost everything she wants, but we teach her that in order to get these things she needs to earn them by behaving, cleaning her room, doing good in school, yet she still sometimes doesn't understand "no". I think that all children don't automatically know why they are being told no when they are so they think it's a matter of you not wanting to and that's why they insist a lot becuase they don't understand, I'm not sure it's that they are so much spoiled, know what I mean?

Answer 5

I have a child, and I do NOT spoil her with gifts in the material sense. Kids these days have way too much stuff, and they turn into materialistic teens and adults who always want =more=. I spoil my child by giving her love and care, helping her to be independent and secure in her self-esteem, encouraging her to be creative and expressive, teaching her to be an upright and responsible member of society, and showing her what a wondrous thing the sound of a gentle breeze through the trees or the whisper of butterfly wings can be.

Answer 6

No. That would promote the idea to children that they can get gifts all the time when they ask. It discourages them to earn money and save it up when they can just get gifts often and when they ask. It doesn't teach them that working hard for what you want is the most rewarding and one of the best ways to get what you desire. There are other ways to show love and affection to your children that are less harmful to them in the long run (what will happen to them later when they grow up and haven't grown out of the "spoiled little brat" routine?).

Answer 7

No. I think the way to raising a good and moraly strong social person is by showing him/her how blessing others will bless you in return. "Spoil" them with unconditional love, and a normal amount of gifts, and then they learn the value of being happy even if they don't get what they want all the time. I think that's the best way to do it. But be sure not to "neglect" them. Gifts on holidays are important, and even one or two gifts out of those holidays. You have to show you care in every possible way, cuase you do. Good luck! =}

Answer 8

I hate to say it, but some people think that my daughter is spoiled. However, she is not. I do reward her for being good and helping around the house and such, but she doesn't get toys to keep her quiet or to bribe her to behave. She only gets toys after she has done something good or behaved really well for a sitter and such. Her grandpa spoils her a little bit, but all grandparents spoil their grandkids... I think it is ok, it kinda gives them that extra bond. I don't see anything wrong with rewarding your children and buying them toys and gifts occasionally as long as that is NOT used as a bribe for the child.

Answer 9

I have 3 children, and yes I do spoil them with gifts. Walking through the stores can be a bit of a hassle because they always want something. However they do not always get it, they are limited by price, and type of toy. They are also required to get rid of all broken toys at home, and I go through their toys to eliminate toys that are simply too old or that they don't play with anymore. Growing up I wasn't allowed that kind of freedom and I love that I can give that to my children.

Answer 10

When you look into your childs eyes and see them light up with joy over the smallest thing, how could you say NO! I get things for my child all the time, but I do not consider him spoiled by any means. I try to get things that I know he has shown an interest in. I want him to know that whatever he wants to try, it will be available to him to do so. If he shows no interest after a while, then I stop pusueing that avenue, but to just not try means that he never gets the chance to find out what he likes or dislikes. He learns from everything he recieves. He reacts to everything that he recieves. He interacts with each item, and we interact with him. Showing him how to use, put together, play. Children need things to spark their imaginations, and children change very quickly, so things become boring much faster for them. You need to keep them stimulated, but you also need to stay involved yourself. Don't just hand them a toy and leave them to play. Spend time with them and they won't be spoiled.