what does he want ..... Me??

Question

Ok here goes, I have been talking this guy now for about 2 months and I really like him. The only downfall is that he is so hard to read. I want to know, what’s the easiest way to tell if he is into me or if he just wants to me friends? Some times there is no question about him liking me and other times I feel as if he just wants to me friends. Honestly I’m falling for him and I don’t want to if its not going anywhere. So I’m looking for some sure signs to look for or possibly if anyone knows a good way to ask him if he ahs any intentions. AND I know just ask, right.... NO he’s not that type! Any ideas are appreciated. Thanks :)

Answer 1

Sometimes the direct approach is best, just ask. But if that seems too bold for your liking, look for the following signs. Pay attention to your conversations with the person in question.
1) Does this person show a special interest in having a conversation with you and, once started, make an effort to keep that conversation going?
2) Has this person taken a sudden interest in your life and hobbies? This is a sure sign that he or she is interested in something.
3) Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away.
4) Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?
Just remember, take each moment like it will be the last. This I feel will be a good start for you in knowing. Good Luck!!!!!!!

Answer 2

So let me get this straight - you want to be "sure" that this is going somewhere before you let yourself care. Is it real comfortable behind that wall or is it a bit lonely ? You sound like you are afraid of getting hurt, and I gotta say - it is absolutely not possible to be part of a relationship (or open to one) without getting hurt.

Not possible.

Nope. Not possible.

You have to accept that and then move forward with the knowledge that it is not going to kill you to be hurt and - for that matter - you might not be hurt right off the bat. People would never find other people in their lives if they all wanted 'sure' things. So give that one up.

Then, just let this unfold the way it is going to unfold. Stop examining everything about it; stop trying to understand it; stop seeing if it will fit into a mold. Don't ask him anything; don't ask him if he has any "intentions." He will let you know when he is ready - you will know when you know. Let. It. Be. Let it be whatever it is going to develop into being. The more comfortable you are with him, the more comfortable he will be with you. The more at ease you both feel, the easier the relationship will be.

Push it now and lose it.

Answer 3

If you get the feeling that he likes you some of the time, that's a pretty positive sign. After all, its more plausible to think that he's hiding liking you behind wanting to be a friend then hiding the fact that he wants to be friends with you behind liking you.

However, you can never tell those sorts of things for sure, at all, so as much as you don't want to hear it, you're going to have to ask. I'd say ask him when you're alone so he won't feel as uncomfortable about telling you and promise him, if he wants, that you'll keep his answer a secret. Whatever you do, keep your word about that: nothing hurts things more than violating the other person's trust. But you probably already have this all under control. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

Hey i know EXACTLY how you feel. Heres what you can do, ask him out on a actual date and see how things go. The next day when you see him or talk to him, tell him you had a great time and that you would really like to do it again. And just keep going, eventually he will get the hint that you have more on your mind then just being friends.
You could also just be like, hey, i really like you more then a friend, and i really enjoy spending time with you, but i need you to be serious with me for a second. I really like you and i've started to develop feelings for you and i need to know if you have those feelings to. If not i would really like to know so i can move on.

Answer 5

I dated a guy just like that. To make a long story short, we got along great, had fun, but always acted a little shady. He said he liked me and all but then would act funny the next day. Turns out he was not worth the time I spent with him. I know he was not dating anyone else but he was not ready for anything that came close to commitment so we had different intentions.

Answer 6

Look if you like the guy and you are getting mixed signals, you should just let him know. If he isn't willing to make clearer to you what he about then that in itself is enough of answer to send you packing. You should keep in mind that not everyone reads signs the same way. So, just to keep yourself out of harms way, go ahead and tell him that the signals are mixed and you would like to know if he is interested or not. He may just be reading mixed signals from you or he may just be interested when his other girl (s) aren't. And if you can't ask then move on girl. No one should weld that must power.

Answer 7

give him a little more time, 2 months is not enough,, i also talk to and finally met someone from the Internet but it was many months later. I don't think you really know if your falling for him until you meet him face to face,, you are just falling for things he is typing or saying to you on the mic... time will tell all.
If it is meant to be it will be , but don't push him or force the issue, you might scare him away. Good Luck

Answer 8

Sounds like maybe he wants his cake and eat it too. Sometimes guys will warm up to you when he is around you and only you. During these times he forgets about the other girls who might be after him, or maybe what his friends might be influencing him to do. But when he leaves your company, he is reminded of the other influences in his life and turn elsewhere with his affections until you warm him up again with pampering and such.

If this is what is going on, he probably is into you, but not ready to make up his mind and go with it. My best advice is to remain a supportive friend of his. If it is meant to be, he will eventually see the value of your relationship.

Answer 9

After 2 months it would seem if he wanted more than friendship he would have made the move by now. But sometimes guys are shy. Next time you are with him casually lean into him and see how his body language is.

Answer 10

um...guys are usually hard to read, if they have been hurt before, it is even harder. The more hurt they have had, the less willing they are to open up. You have to make him feel like he can trust you before he starts clinging to you. The change in moods toward you are him allowing himself to let go for short periods of time. Give him time, talk to him, and hopefully for you he will accept you into his life. Just be patient.