I dated a man for four years and we lived together for 3. He told me to move out 2 years ago, so I did. He then begged me back as soon as he realized I was w/ someone else. About 4 months ago the same thing happened again. So I moved out but I waited a few months before even considering dating. Finally I met an awesome man, everything I ever wanted, but a little less attractive. Then the ex started begging me back again. He says it wont happen again. Let me remind you that I am only 20 and he is 22, so immaturity can play a role, too. So now I broke it off with the new one and told him I need to think about my life. But I have been spending time with my ex. Every other day I feel differently towards each of them. When I am with one I miss the other and vice-versa. They are both waiting around for an answer. Personally I don't care about my ex waiting cuz he has made me wait. But I feel like i can't make the other one wait anymore. I don't know how to decide which to be with. Help!!
2006-07-05 07:46:53 · 8 answers · asked by Confused24/7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe neither one.
If you were willing to just walk out on the new guy because your ex came calling, you must not be all that into him. If that's the case, why would you go back to him?
If your ex is that flaky, it sounds like you have an endless web of drama to look forward to if you go back to him. Do you really want that? If you can't bear to be without him, then nothing anyone says is going to talk you out of it. But otherwise, you're better off moving past him once and for all.
2006-07-05 07:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by Serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the one that you can't let him wait. He's the one that hasn't done anything wrong to you and he seems to be number one on your list. I have this problem right now, but 4 bois. I'm a lil younger than you, but I have to do the same. You have to ask yourself; Which one can't wait?
2006-07-05 14:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your ex he had his chance. Now he's done. Go with this awesome man.
Give up the awesome man, and go with your ex, and you will get dumped again....God gave us memories for a reason, that is to learn patterns (like in preschool, circle square circle _____ what comes after circle?) and that men DO NOT CHANGE. Let this be a lesson to your ex that First, he has no right to toy with women, they get fed up and deserve respect. Secondly, you are doing this to make him a better man for the next girl. For you, I will tell you that if you constantly over-compromise your happiness you will become a bitter and resentful woman. (I loath women like this and avoid them as much as possible and guard myself from this)
2006-07-05 14:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you chicks are confused its enough to drive a man insane. I hate to say it but if it wasnt for that thing between your NA never mind
2006-07-05 14:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by ditzhitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is don't play games with either of them just go with yr hart u would not want the guy of yr dreams to get away from u and u would not want him to play with yr feeling would u.good luck
2006-07-05 14:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by sunshinegal0117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I could sing you a song about that!
The real question is:
How do you really feel, deep down in your heart, when you think really deep and imagine never seeing him again, which ine is it that makes you yearn for him the most?
Then again you are young, it's your choice!
2006-07-05 14:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not right to begin with... will never be right after... give the new love a chance.
2006-07-05 14:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shoould just follow your heart and he'll come up
2006-07-11 18:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by louisvilleboi06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋