My daughter was potty trained 6 months before her 2nd birthday. BUt because of the day care that she was in and the refused to move her up she had to wear a diaper and go in the diaper. Well, no I have taken her out of the day care and I want her to go potty. She refuses to tell me she has to potty until after she has done it. She that she has had a bowl movement because she brings me the baby wipes to clean her. IF I don't do it when she wants it off she takes off her pamper and starts to wipe herself. She likes wearing panties but she always urinates in them and gets very upset when I take them off and don't put on another pair. There are times when she tells me that she has to potty but she doesn't do anything. How do I get her to go to the potty? I do still have pull ups on her because she doesn't go to the bathroom and she hides when she urinates in the panties so no one will notice that she is wet or a wet spot in the floor. HELP!PLEASE!
2006-07-05 07:46:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I add that my baby has been potty trained before and NO I AM NOT FORCING HER! She knows where the potty is kept and knows how to go to the bathroom. I think that the pull ups are keeping her confused but she always pees in her panties and I don't like having to disipline her for not telling me that she had to go. I go give her rewards but sometimes she only goes in the bathroom to get a reward rather than using it. Once more I am not pushing her. I'm concerned because she articulates her words and expresses her feeling very well. Even with the pull ups she knows how to go to the bathroom and releive herself. So please refrain from passing judgement on me. I am just asking for her because I had her trained and I tried retraining her the same way and it's not working.
2006-07-05 08:13:15 · update #1
my daughter is going through the same phase which is crazy she is also 2 and she know's how to use the bathroom but she won't do it so what i did was bring other kids that are using the bathroom around her and let her see them using the bathroom so now she want's to use it more. just talk to her and tell her stuff like big girls use the bathroom or my daughter likes dora i so i would put dora on her old potty and tell her dora is using her potty and she would go.also you can tell her if she pee's in her pull up's she will not get something she likes alot like ice cream.if that doesn't work then you just got to be patient with her she'll get the hang of it.
2006-07-05 08:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by tender 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try positive reinforcement.
1) Explain what you want out of her (a drink & wet doll works well here)
2) Find something she likes. She sounds like she wants some kind of pampering and extra attention, so maybe you could get her some baby perfume or something else. Or a nice hair ribbon.
3) Tell her she can wear her perfume (or ribbon) when she goes potty.
4) Give her the ribbon when she does. Lots of applause!
5) Take it back if she lapses, put it back on when she does better.
6) Repeat as necessary.
If you can get a chicken to dance with this method, you can do almost everything.
2006-07-05 14:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by teleny2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried rewards, as opposed to fretting or scolding?
It's a learned behavior,,, She didn't HAVE to use the toilet at some points,,,Obviously,,,
Do not cause her any embarrassment anxieties about what she may not quite understand in that learning process OTHERS were more in control of,,, or rather denied her.
You can communicate with her about what it is that causes her fear or angst in using the toilet. Thankfully you removed her from that particular day care. AND truly, this is a parents job anyway.
She obviously already knows WHAT TO DO,,,ask her why she fears following through.
At two she isn't focused on much more than being comfortable and pleasing you. Allow her those. Bargain if it works, take, "Baby steps" in the process, very privately, each small step in progress needs a reward.
So many steps you can take,,,,so little space here to expand on my opinions.
Rev. Steven
2006-07-05 14:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by DIY Doc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like there may be more going on with your daughter than you realize. Be patient with her....no yelling......reward her for going. Dedicate your days off to taking care of this problem. Putting diapers on a trained child was a mistake. You confused the poor girl. No more diapers.....panties only. You may have some messes to clean but enforce the idea she's a Big girl now.
You can do it
2006-07-05 14:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by sudbury girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have to reteach her how to go to the potty. Remember, she was for a long time in diapers in the day care, for whatever reason and she knows how to go potty, so you just have to sort of make it fun. You can give her some kind of price when she actually goes potty.
2006-07-05 14:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did yo ever stop to think the day care is LAZY for not helping her learn to potty! They should know that kids develop at their own pace..Not when it's ok for the day care to say its ok to learn to go potty...Remind her to go potty maybe she forgets...Maybe the day care is not changing her often enough???
2006-07-05 15:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not ready! You are forcing it way too much. She is sensing pressure from you. She needs all the signs of readiness. Poor child. Some childrens' bladders are not fully developed physically until they are 2 1/2 years old. So physically, it is pointless to expect her to hold it if she is not ready. Check below.
2006-07-05 15:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to go potty and when she's finished give her a reward like cookies
2006-07-05 15:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to start all over again from the very beginning. good luck
2006-07-05 14:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋