I am married and I have a beautiful daughter. My hubby is married to his job. I hate it. i really don't know what to do. I am so lonely emotionaly. I have friends but on an intimate level I am lonely.
2006-07-05 07:31:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-07-05 07:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are several ways to handle this depending on the details.
1. I suggest that if you are still in love with your husband talk to him and tell him how you feel, if he's really understanding and loves you too, then he'll make a sacrifice and meet you half way and somehow try and make you happy.
2. If you aren't happy with him but are happy with the lifestyle he provides for you, then I say you pick up on a hobby that will fill this lonely gap if you know what I mean, find yourself a guy friend.
3. If you aren't happy with the lifestyle and your husband doesn't care to try and make you happy by spending more time with you and your daughter then leave him.
The end result should make you happy no matter what you decide to do. If you can't be happy then you can't make your #1 priority happy and that's your daughter. I wish you luck.
2006-07-05 14:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eFirst you need to find some hobbies of your own. Only you can fulfill your life. Also you need to share you views with you hubby just like you're doing with us. Sometimes a man or a woman can't help the time they spent on their jobs. If you hubby has a career I'm sure he's trying to move forward up the ladder to better positions within his company.
On the other hand by speaking to him, you need to let him know how you'll feeling is just as important as his job. Yes you need time and he's your husband therefore needs to fulfill your needs on an intimate level or he's going to open the door for someone Else to do it for him. I pray that you or someone can get to him before it's too late. You're in my prayers and good luck.
2006-07-05 14:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by Basilchef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey ... I read that you're from East Texas, and I understand a bit of what you're going through. I've lived in Tyler only 13 years and have never been able to really fit in. I have a husband I love, and a 17 year old daughter that I'm completely proud of, but at times I feel like I'm on an island in the middle of nowhere.
Not being weird or anything, but my E-mail is ranjer764@sbcglobal.net if you just need someone to talk to or just want to vent about whatever.
2006-07-10 03:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally have had this problem for years now. It has gotten so bad that once I had what felt similar to a panic attack. My heart was beating like crazy but I was neither angry nor afraid. My mother had a problem similar to yours and now my parents have been divorced for some time now. She found someone else of course and so she's found happiness. The conclusion I came to was that my parents really shouldn't have ever gotten married in the first place. I suggest you seek marriage counseling. If time reveals that you and your husband were not meant to be together then so be it. Good luck.
2006-07-05 14:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Dr.C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been going through something similar. First, I would sit down and try to communicate with your husband about your concerns. Second, you need to develop your own hobbies, interests, and friendships. No one person can meet all the needs of another. You'll both be happier if you develop other parts of your life.
2006-07-05 15:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I'm lonely I talk with my best girlfriend or my mom. Do you have any close friends, maybe a friendship that's a little deeper than the others? If you're close to your mom that's also a great person to talk with you to keep you company.
2006-07-05 14:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by MC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate. I'm alone most of the time. I came online to meet people, so to speak. It is a daily struggle not to give in to depression. You have to focus on what you DO HAVE. And find not only time with your husband but with other people. Stop by my page and see me.
2006-07-05 14:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to your husband about this. Obviously he's a
workaholic and you are being left in the cold. This is the sort
of situation that can result in divorce if it's not dealt with.
2006-07-05 16:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh, the old, "I want to have an affair, and I need you to justify it question", eh? Ain't gonna happen. Get a dog and watch Lifetime.
2006-07-05 15:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋