Okay, I've known this guy since we were 12 and now we are 27... we have been dating on and off for the past six years.. Im tired of dealing with the drama.. I can move away or stay, but it seems so hard to leave him alone.. Plus i think the only way for him to leave me alone is if i piss him off, but i cant seem to do that he just forgives me.. what should i do?
2006-07-05 07:23:30 · 5 answers · asked by unicorncatering 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The question is what do you want ? Have you examined the relationship for that ? You are only 27 - you are not at the end of your dating career if you don't want to be. But if he is what you want (and you are what he wants) then maybe that is where you both are.
Somebody once wrote that If you love to talk to someone, if you're still happy to see him, if you crack each other up, if he's the one you want to be with when you're scared or sick or sad, if you rarely get tired of each other, and if you still find each other attractive even though you aren't ripping each other's clothes off any more - then you have a good relationship. Is that what you have ? If not, then maybe it is time to reassess.
If you decide there is no future for the two of you, you don't have to "piss him off" to get him to leave you alone. You've known the guy since you were 12 - for 15 years! You can tell him that it's over for the two of you as dates for each other. And you can mean it - meaning, you don't take calls, you don't e-mail, you don't continue. You change the construction of your friendship.
If you decide there IS a future, then it is time for both of you to re-construct your future in a way that has the two of you proceeding together.
A bit of behavior modification, either way, will take you a long way toward your future.
2006-07-05 07:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just tell him what you said to us, you are sick of the drama-it was ok when you were a teenager but now that you have grown up you want more in life and it is not working out, don't stay because he will be alone-he is not your problem, you have to worry about you-if you don't nobody else will, you need to make you happy and you are not going to be unless you disconnect yourself with the drama.
2006-07-05 14:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by chattytlb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new boyfriend and leave this guy alone seems to me like hes just playing games and you 2 are not getting younger.
2006-07-05 14:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by QUEEN OF LOS ANGELES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go, why deal with the emotional drain. Besides you didn't mention you loved him so do both of you the favor and end it now.
2006-07-05 14:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let go and ignore him he would get the picture
2006-07-05 15:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋