I am 24 and been with my man for 3 yrs, I love him to death and we have a great relationship, the only thing is our sex life isn't that great, he is up for anything but I hold back, I feel weird and a little embarrassed doing crazy things, any suggestions on what might help me get over this ???
2006-07-05 07:04:42 · 20 answers · asked by Pompin Jo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just do it!!!!!!! If you want to keep your man than u need to loosen up a little. Either u want out of the relationship and don't know how to get out or u are not sure of yourself, please just do it. I've been in a similar situation where I was down for whatever and she was always timid about certain things. She was worried about embarrassing herself in front of me but I say If we've been together for so long how can u not want to do certain things? This only discourage the man and makes him reevaluate his situation and u don't want that now do u? So my suggestion is to leave if u want to leave or just do it, u shouldn't feel ashamed about anything that u do with your man if you truly love him, because he obviously loves u if he's stuck around that long and has tried to work things out. Baby, believe me, this is coming from a man's point of view, if u want to keep him then, I repeat again, JUST DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, It will also open another chapter in your relationship that will take everything to another level.
2006-07-05 07:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by knickcelticyankee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a couple of drinks and lower your inhibitions a little then have him try some ideas that you think you might want to try. Also there are many books out there to spark up the bedroom that have envelopes each of you open and try on one another. Most of these are not crazy fetish type stuff but to give a little bit of an edge that you wouldn't normally think to do.
2006-07-05 14:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it ... really discuss what it is he is interested in trying or exploring. I think it depends on what sort of crazy things he is wanting you to do. You both need to be comfortable or things won't work. You have been together a long time so your comfort level with him should be high. Trust yourself ... and learn to let go a little ... you never know what you might really enjoy unless you try.
The key is to be honest with him and yourself and most of all always stay true to yourself.
Good luck.
2006-07-05 14:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about your feelings about doing the crazier things. Once you talk to him, maybe he won't be so prone to do some of the crazy things that make you uncomfortable. Remember, this is your relationship and your sex life too, so you should feel comfortable and enjoy what your doing as well as he. talk with him: that is the best remedy to your problem.
2006-07-05 14:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking is the best thing. talk it out with your man. have him find some things that he'd like to try and suggest them to you. then talk it out why each thing makes you uncomfortable. maybe you're just not up for those kinky things to spice up your sex life. try changing where you do it...even getting a hotel room for a night and making it all romantic could be a nice change.
2006-07-05 14:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by sweeternity2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the master of your destiny. If you are uncomfortable doing for lack of a better words freaky things you should stop. If you ask him to stop doing it and he refuses he is not in love with and is disrespecting you. That is to say disrespecting your wishes in the bedroom or where ever. You must make a decision on what is best for you.
Good luck.
2006-07-05 14:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why you feel so weird, if you do discuss it with him. If yo dont know why you need to see a therapist. If you cant do anything around you mate you are cheating him and yourself. He should know the scent of your gas and have pulled the string, that is real love and commitment.
2006-07-05 14:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by LrdBodizafa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with the shot person on this. Honestly, my husband is a freak, and I'm a little more reserved. A few drinks and I'm good to go.
(Seriously, You have to remember that he won't judge you because this is what he wants/likes. And, we are always our worst critics!)
2006-07-05 14:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by MOMof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl it's been 3 yrs and your still shy....
I would say do anything and everything you guys have always wanted to do....He'll love you even more and find you even more sexier.....Use candle lite as well....It's make your skin glow and the mood more enjoyable....Have Fun!!!
2006-07-05 14:07:58 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of problems do you have in your sex life? Try to talk what's going on and try to resolve it or ask a sexologist.
2006-07-05 14:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by Soso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋