my dad is having a really difficult time at the moment and i have some how become his rock, im now the one giving all the advice i can and sorting as much as i can out for him to make things as easy as possible, just like he used to with me...and then it dawned on me..when do parents stop being parents and become the child?
2006-07-05 06:48:19 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
As a parent to both my own children and then the children of my second marriage I say, never! Better you should ask, when do my parents become my friends. I am blessed with two grown up daughters who are my buddies and who do not hesitate to contact my wife and I when they need to or just to chat and keep us up to date with their lives. Equally we can talk to them. Be his friend but never forget that you are his daughter as well. He needs you now, you need him always.
2006-07-05 07:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 3⤋
Parents should never stop being parents, even when the child grows into an adult and start its own family. Parents should be there to support their children and their children's children.
Unfortunately, not every parent lives up to this responsible behaviour, as soon as their children turn into an independent adult, they seem to carefree of their children's life and then the parent acts like the over-grown child thinking its still free and young to catch up on the lost time they once could of had.
Its OK to see your parents move on with their life's, after all some deserve a break and to make a future for themselves, but leaving their child-adults behind and not caring about them, just shows how selfish they can be.
2006-07-05 07:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by lonely as a cloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dad has MS and can't get about as easily, but he's still there for me when I need a shoulder to cry on or some kind of help with anything I can't deal with myself. I help him get about and take him shopping. I also help him check forms that he's filled out. Maybe it gets to the point where you as the "child" can now help out your parents. Although I think you never stop being a parent. My daughter is 18 and she will always be my wee girl.....
2006-07-05 06:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by muggle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isnt the case all the time. Many parents are parents for the rest of their lives. Usually there is only a switch over when they are unable to take care of thesmelves, and perhaps you could say they may physically be demanding like a child, but most of the time they can still be a source of advice and wisdom
2006-07-05 06:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by Dagfinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is a case of being in mutual support of each other rather than a child/parent relationship gone haywire. it just goes to show that your dad has done a great job with your upbringing if you can offer thim the help he needs in return for the help he has given you. I was promoted to mutual supporter of both parents in my twenties and have been like this ever since.
parents are parents but they are also people and it's nice to be able to rely on close members of the family in spite of the family hierarchy. obviously your dad thinks you are wise beyond your years. remember, parents don't know everything even though some think that they do!
2006-07-05 07:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by stingub40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They never stop being your parents but they will gradually become more dependant on you for help feeling like the role is reversed. Nice is some ways as you can pay them back for the love and care they gave you, not in others as you start to realise their mortality
2006-07-05 07:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by felicity_pink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother is still alive, and she's still giving advice. I'll always be her 'child'. As she told me.. she'll never stop being a parent.
On the other hand, my father can't do things around the house, he looks to me and other children for advice. I guess you could almost say that we're mentoring him.
It all depends on the parent, and the time in their life.
2006-07-05 06:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by MK6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents will never stop being parents. But at some point in your life, they will need help but still remain the parent. All decent children will help their parents at some stage whether in old age, illness or financially
2006-07-05 06:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by corleonelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. They will always be the one who tells you what you need to do. However, when you have things they can learn from you, it doesn't make you the parent, just the child they raised helping someone else. Looks like they raised you right.
2006-07-05 06:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents never stop being parents, but it is fair to say that as the children grow up, most decent ones will try and look after their folks.
2006-07-05 06:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents never stop being parents. When they get old they still are parents but sometimes they need you to help them out and care for them.
2006-07-05 07:05:37 · answer #11 · answered by kaytie_cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋