My boyfriend has been treating me different ever since I've told him I'm an "atheist"
But we've been going out for 9months, and I love him.... But why would he treat be different, just because I'm different.... He never treated me different when he found out about my disorder, so why is he treating me different now?
2006-07-05 06:44:28 · 16 answers · asked by KindaBrokenButStillWhole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well 1) I have a TRUE disorder.... and atheist isnt it...
I have Epilepsy...
2006-07-05 06:48:52 · update #1
omg people...
ATHEIST ISNOT A DISORDER!!
I HAVE EPILEPSY!!! A SEIZURE DISORDER!!! *omg..*
2006-07-05 06:52:21 · update #2
You know what.... just never mind... no one had helped me... I'm just going to go get the freaking bible and read the freaking thing... maybe that will make him happy..*eeh..*
2006-07-05 07:01:24 · update #3
Maybe... just maybe, he isn't treating you differently because you are atheist... got a question... did you tell him differently from the start? Did you tell him, like, you were christian?
That would make it a lie.
Maybe you've lied to him sooooo many times, you broke his trust? I suggest that if you really love him, you'll let him know that you know you've screwed up, and if he's a nice guy, he'll forgive you and let you start building your trust back up.
2006-07-05 13:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mana 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Religion can be very personal for people. If such is the case then it was very important that you two come to this hurtle. To be honest this may signal your eventual break up. If it is that big a problem for him you should find out. First I would give him some time before you confront him with the issue as he may just need some time to think through this and realize that either you are still the same person he's always felt for or that you carry an attitude he can't live with. I'd say give him one to two weeks and if he hasn't come around by then talk to him about it. If you pressure him he may repel against you. I myself am an agnostic though while at church I mascarade as a christian. I favor ideas rather than beliefs and I acknowlege my feelings about the world.
Good luck and be careful of religous arguments.
2006-07-05 14:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by Dr.C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to him about his beliefs and if he says he is treating you differently because u r an atheist then he shouldn't and he's not worth you worrying about why he's being like this you need to try and move on or try and make him see that being an atheist isn't a reason for him to treat you any differently. The only way you can sort this out is to talk to him otherwise you'll never understand why.
2006-07-05 13:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by PinkBunny<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A different belief system can hit someone really hard, it is easy when in love to handle the thought of a disorder, or diseases, or anything that is physical is easy to handle when in love. But when one doesn't believe in an afterlife or the almighty, and the other one does it is a hard thing to get over, that can mess with someones head if they are thinking they are going to spend forever together, and then find out that the other person just belives it all stops when you die.
2006-07-05 13:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. No 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You choose to be an atheist so this reflects on who you are as a person, you did not choose to have epilepsy, so he's not judging you about that.
Maybe your boyfriend is a religious person and is disappointed by your lack of faith? Religion is very important to some people and can make or break a relationship. You need to talk to him to see if it really bothers him.
2006-07-05 13:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by suki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how being an Atheist is a disorder but, basic belief is key to your relationship if he believes in God and you do not, chances are you guys will not last, religion is to much of a fundamental to people to not have a connection
2006-07-05 13:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by LrdBodizafa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People sometimes walk around with blinders on, and when someone like us forces them to see that their way is not the only way, they tend to get a bit disturbed. There is nothing wrong with what you believe, just like there is nothing wrong with he believes. You just need to take some time and have a sit down with him, explain why you are the way you are and let him express how it makes him feel.
Fear comes from a lack of understanding, although he may not agree with your point of view, at least give him the information so that he can better understand it.
2006-07-05 13:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by Indigo7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe GOD is something important in his life. If you love him then talk to him about this. I can understand that he may feel a little different about you b/c you are atheist, but if he really LOVES you then your love should be strong enough to pass this. Good luck.
2006-07-05 13:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by ♥eLizAbEtH♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does being an Atheist qualify as a "disorder"?
2006-07-05 13:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by racingcowboy58 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you talked to him about y he has been treating you different? if not you should talk to him. if he doesn't except you for it then you deserve better. everyone deserves someone who loves you no matter what! Also he could be scared that you will be treating him different because of what you told him. look at how he looks at it... most of all just talk to him. things will work out they always do.
2006-07-05 13:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by idontneedaman91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋