Please don't laugh. How do you get an evil brother to be nicer to you? Especially if you are nice to him a lot and he just ignores it? And if it matters, he's older, I'm younger. I really want to be nice to him before he goes to college, but it's so hard when he's so MEAN.
2006-07-05 06:35:43 · 26 answers · asked by Autumn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well...lots of people when they are about to go off to college become really agitated with their world. they want to just leave already. it's hard for a younger sibling to understand what the older one is going through; and the more you try, the more annoying you seem to him. just let him know, really subtly, that you love him and will miss him when he goes off. it's not like going to college means he's disappearing from the face of the earth; you'll still see him. and once he comes back, he'll be a lot better. he's just really looking forward to moving out and is displacing that emotion into anger at you.
2006-07-05 06:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by sweeternity2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well im the oldest of 4. Im in my late 20s my brother is 1yr and 5 months younger than me. We fought so much when we were young. Now that we are a little older, he still has his ways. He only calls when he needs something. He hardly comes by to see his nephews. True he is my brother, i love him but he is still a pain. I dont know how old you are or how he is. It sounds like u guys are still young but heres my point>>> You guys are still family. He may have things going on in his life or it may be that plus the fact that he needs to grow up. Either way try to still be supportive of him. When he gets older and matures hopefully he will see how he's been w/ u & will change his ways. My brother sees how he has been and in alot of ways has improved.Right now he has things going on in his life and sometimes will look at them like they are worse than what they are. Just stand by him. Don't go overboard being nice. He may take advantage of that. Have u tried telling him how u feel?? If u dont feel like talking email or write him. Hope this helps and good luck :-)
2006-07-05 06:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by da_original1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things have a way of working themselves out. Once you get a little older, you will start to figure out that there are a few people you can really count on in life and your family is it. Tell your brother this before he leaves- you'll be there if he needs you. He might laugh it off or be a d**k, but he'll remember.
My sis and I were at each other's throats constantly. Then she gave me a nephew who I absolutely adore. 15 years later, we're good friends. Life is funny.
2006-07-05 06:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by Schmorgen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most evil way to get him to be nice to you, is get something you know he likes and wait.... when he finds out you have it and wants to borrow / use it, he'll be over and nicer too.
Or..
have a knock out gorgeous girlfriend come over if he's around, he'll be really nice to you and want to get to her through you.
But DON'T flaunt it in his face, or you'll be just as bad as he is to you. I did that with a brother I had, he never knew the whole story but it didn't matter, we talk and have a better relationship than we did for many years. hope this helps- good luck!
2006-07-05 06:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by texsun817 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, there's nothing you can really do about it, love. You can't really change how he behaves and feels about you. You just need to do your part to make the relationship better, which is, like you said, being nicer to him and "turning the other cheek." You're the better person in this. Hopefully, he'll grow up one day and realize how bad he's treated you and the two of you will be able to build a friendship from there. Good Luck!
2006-07-05 06:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAHA - I have a younger sister like that. Ohh she was a monster (not to just me but everyone in the family) we tried everything to get her to snap out of it -- she's 25 now and she's been very good and actually fun to hang with for about a year now. She stopped being an *** when she was about to turn 24 and she bought her first house, got her first decent job and first real boyfriend. (she lives alone and is doing awesome) so I think it was a self esteem thing with her --- maybe by your brother going away to school will give him whatever it is that he needs to feel better about himself?
2006-07-05 06:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's just mean, what's on his mind or what's he going through that he don't wanna be close to nobody, or he's mad at the world? is it just you, or is he mean to everybody...is he jealous of you? what's your age difference? i ask these questions because sometimes they play a very important part in why someone is doing what they are doing...and if we can find that out then maybe you can know how to approach the situation and get the results you are looking for. i hope the best for you and your brother because there's nothing like family.....my older cousin, who's like a brother because my grandparents adopted both of us....used to treat me bad all the time, i literally thought he hated me, but when others picked on me he was at my rescue...and now that we are older we talk and laugh..so maybe in time he'll get better in the meantime you just be yourself.
2006-07-05 06:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know the age diffrence in this situation, but maybe you should tell him how you feel. Say that you want to be "friends" before he goes off to collage. I have a bro is younger than me (3) years when we were kids we did nothing but fight. Now I really couldnt emagine life with out him. We have alot of the same friends and we are friends. im 24 hes 21. Good luck and I just say talk to him, I know its harder than it sounds but if you really want to be cool with him you will need to tell him.
2006-07-05 06:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just going through a really rough time. You can't make anyone do something they don't want to do. Perhaps you could sit him down and tell him how you feel and be honest. If he doesn't want to talk to you and be honest in return, there is nothing you can do to change that. People have to work through things on their own and on their own time. Give him time but just let him know how you feel and that it hurts that you two don't get along. Good luck!
2006-07-05 08:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by jjdanca18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
big bro's the worst!! know what your oin through!try bein more nice. like do him some favors free. just ignore him too. just remember your stuck with him for the rest of your life! and if being nice doesn't work try this boys have trouble expressing feeling so this may be a way saying he really cares about his sis. and just rememeber this too even if he's mean he'll always be there for you when you need him. he may be frustrated on going to colledge and scared to it's your turn to be there for him!!
2006-07-05 06:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by marlena f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋