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Now, i have a huge problem. I have had bad panic attacks for 5 years now, i have seen 2 doctors and a councillor, but none will prescribe me drugs, i have now gave up on the nhs as they have put me on a waiting list now. I tried internet sites but all want money to help you. The trigger to my attacks began when i was attacked on my first night drinking when i was 15/16. My parents divorced at that time/i had lived my whole life with domestic violence and bullying at school, i managed to control them at college till my boyfriend started being abusive, then they came back. The worst trigger is work now , i have work tomorrow or im fired, i cant face it, i shake nervously , blush. sweat, stutter and others notice now. Worried i might just crack. Is there anyone out there who controlled their attacks in the space of 24 hours, how?

Answer 1

You have to make a choice not to let things like that affect you. You can't be a victim forever- just face your fears...what's the worst thing that could happen? Why are you afraid of WORK?

Drugs aren't the answer, they just dull you. They don't fix the problem.

Just take deep breaths, and make the choice to be a strong person and get through it. It gets easier each time.

Answer 2

Telling you that you can snap out of it if you really want is at best unhelpful. The problem may be physical; you have suffered stress, and your body is making decisions about a percieved threat. Your reaction is physical, you cannot will yourself into a panic attack. You can be having a panic attack while at the same time your mind is thinking "Oh for crying out loud, not again".
You may have started out with undiagnosed post traumatic stress disorder, this has led to the panic attacks. You've been very badly let down by the health service as this condition is not at all unusual and is well documented.
Go and see your gp and if they wont help try to see a different one; ask if you can try beta blockers or something like paroxatine hydrochloride. The paraox is an sssi (serotonin somethingorother uptake inhibitor.) They'll help you deal with the worst of the anxiety.
But you also need cognitive behaviour therapy. It explains the cycles and patterns of thought processes and behaviour. Then you get a list of options to help you re-design the outcome; it really works.
You might find a book called "Understanding Panic Attacks" helpful, I'll go and look for the isbn.
The foundation for your current panic attacks and anxiety were laid down for you by your home life as a child; you've had high stress levels for years. You're by no means the only person going through this, you're not mad and its NOT YOUR FAULT! Most people who have panic attacks wouldn't wish them on their worst enemy and would walk over hot coals to be free fo them; that takes time so be patient with yourself.
But you definately need a better gp.
I don't know any 24 hour cure. If you can possibly remember what it felt like to be able to walk through the door and get on with it, and if you can will yourself into that place, you can do it.

Answer 3

I'm sorry that life is so terrible for you. Look back at what u have just written as a starting point. You may think i am a nutter but trust me this will work. I can honestly say you have every reason for feeling the way you do-- most of which was put upon you without reason. Life changes do have an adverse effect on us from time to time, it's how we deal with it that really counts.
I would love to talk in more depth about this but cannot on here. If you would like to talk more i am a great listener and i will privately leave u my yahoo/msn address.

I too have had my fair share in life and there is no help available stright away. Talking about it is a start. Let me know

Answer 4

Are you drinking? Alcohol makes you paranoid and depressed.
What actually worries you about work? You really should be talking to your HR Manager about the situation and explaining that you have this problem. They should be able to help you by either controlling your environment or talking you through it. One of my colleague's daughter has this problem and she took some considerable time off work only to be unable to face ever going back. She openly admits that avoidance actually made the problem worse.
You must confront these fears and take control of them. Lose the abusive boyfriend (if he's still around) you don't need that kind of cr*p in your life. Drugs will not help you. They will merely create an illusionary world that sooner or later you will have to walk away from - believe me you do become addicted to these drugs and the false sense of securty that they afford you - and then you will have another problem.
Go to work tomorrow, take some sort of security blanket with you, like worry beads, or any token that you have happy and secure associations with. Approach the Personnel manager and ask quietly if you could possibly speak to them (take a deep breath and rehearse what you are going to say tonight - write it down if necessary - so that you will be more confident and coherent, when you speak with them. When they have listened to your problem tell them what you think may help you to continue in work and let them take it from there.
I think you already accept that you cannot go on like this, and especially not for the rest of your life.
Please forget drugs - only you can make you happy.

This claims to be a free course
http://www.panic-attacks.co.uk/panic_course_contents.htm
you may want to check this out.

I hope things improve for you soon

Good Luck

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear that none of the help you have been offered has done any good, and it maked me wonder if you are asking the right questions. Although your panic attacks are happening in the here and now, it seems to me that they are very much the response to past issues being reawakened by similar current events. If the counsellor you saw was a cognitive behaviourist, then he/she would not address these earlier issues, but just try to alter your present behaviour, and drugs will just mask all the symptoms only to resurface once you stop taking them. A psychodynamic counsellor (whom unfortunately you will have to pay for), will try to help you resolve the earlier issues, and so enable you to stop projecting them onto the present. This may also give you the strength to deal with present events in your life. Finally. I would be suspicious of internet sites offering 'cures' as at the heart of good counselling lies the relationship btween the two people involved, and is a very personal and intimate one you cannot achieve on-line. You can find a good counsellor in your area at bacp.co.uk . Any counsellor registered with this organisation are ethically bound to meet high standards of practice.

Answer 6

Sometimes, the panic attacks are a bit of a warning and you need to slow down and think about what they mean. Other times, they are representative of fears that may be realistic or not. Many times, people with this type of anxiety and panic will try their best to avoid whatever it is they are afraid of ... it may relieve the anxiety temporarily, but it does not make the panic attacks go away. You need to face whatever it is and deal with it; even if you are frightened. If the therapist you worked with was not appropriate, find another one that can specifically address your issues.

Answer 7

I can't promise this will work - you may have already tried it.

Lie on your bed, on your back with your arms by your sides. Now make an effort to relax each of the muscles in your body in turn, starting with your face and working down to your feet. This should take about 10 minutes. Once you're fully relaxed, imagine you're at work feeling relaxed and having a good time. Keep working at this, it may take a few hours to get there. If you can manage to work through this exercise, you'll find you enjoy work tomorrow.

Answer 8

have had a few attacks, but what worked for me might not work for you. isnt there a way of explianing to someone at work you can trust what you have been through and let them know you atrying to keep it real. maybe they can understand. focuss hard on what you want, that is the job - and have lots of determination to fight it.

Answer 9

I can only advise you to cry out to Jesus to help you, he is the great healer, try to believe. I was healed of depression that way so I can tell you prayer works, what have you got to lose?

Answer 10

When you have try Doctor,Please try Yoga ,you can find it on internet,I think meditation can help you.