why does this guy act so diffrent after we made love last night?

Question

i feel so bad now,like something is wrong with me or him

Answer 1

How differently is he acting? Does he show you contempt and discourtesy now? Or is he just a bit less avid for your company?

Some men pursue women just to have sex with them. And the men who do this are generally the ones who appear the most attractive. Why do those men act that way? Because they can. They know that girls will "go" for them, that they can "get" a girl anytime they want. So they don't have much incentive to be considerate to the girl after they have sex.

But most men are a little less interested in a woman right after sex. The lust is spent and gone. The urge just isn't there any more. He might still like you pretty well, but now he's tired and hot from the exercise, and he wants to relax and maybe sleep a while.

That doesn't mean he's being rude toward you. If you just ran a mile as fast as you could, and a reporter at the finish line wanted to have a big, long conversation with you, wouldn't you wish the guy would wait for a few minutes before sticking the microphone in your face?

So there's two kinds of different acting. One guy might be a predator who used you to get himself some fun. Another guy might still like you, but wait a bit on more lovey-dovey stuff 'cause it's nap time now.

Answer 2

Give it sometime, don't worry too much ( i know is hard) at least if you worry don't let him know, just go on with your normal day, it was last night, guys are different than us, maybe he needs to reconsider some things, or as painfull as this may sound this was just sex for him, but give a few days, and if he keeps acting weird or don't call you, send him an email, just saying hi, and how's everything and take it from there, and if all that fails, just move on, you have a whole life ahead of you, if he doesn't value you that means he's not worth your time

Answer 3

It's because his relationship with you has changed, the way he thinks about you has changed, when you have sex it changes a lot of things, it could be he has a feeling of guilt for some reason, it could be he feels more towards you than he expected, or less toward you than he did before. Maybe before the act he looked at you like a person and now you are just another piece of meat to him, its hard to tell but these are all possibilities. I will tell you one thing though, things are never the same after having sex

Answer 4

You are right. Something is definitely wrong with him. It sounds to me like he was only interested in one part of you, your body. Or if you don't think that is the case the other possibility is that you didn't take enough time to form a solid relationship before you became physically intimate. Sex does change things and it's not as simple as movies and television depict it. Perhaps you should take the time to re-evaluate how the relationship advanced, why you were attracted to him and what clues you might see in hindsight that might point to this reaction.

Answer 5

You have to realize when you have sex or make love you are giving yourself to that person if you are going to be with some one for the rest of your life it will continue to be better then the last time but if not you are loosing a part of you.
Mind body and soul. these feeling are normal. ask your self do you want to give yourself away,
even if you think you are going to be together for ever doesn't mean you are its best to save your self for that special night even if you have already given your self away. its still not to late to wait. if you are feeling bad this could be your conscience telling you that it was wrong.

Answer 6

After sex, males tend to relax. Due to some physiological and psychological reasons (which could be hormonal) the body has a tendency to shun out others. It may not necessarily be your fault (kind of like a child finishing a candy bar). This usually wears off, but keep an eye on his behavior for a week. If it does not wear off, he may be cheating on you. (P.S. DO NOT JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS!!! FIND THE FACTS FIRST!!)

Answer 7

That what men think about. Some men mistake lust with love. Medea was right as long as you hold out you have the power. The trick is don't call them don't answer their calls for at least a day then youhave the upper hand.

Answer 8

Since you have got to the level of having sex. Then, I'll suggest you call him and tell him all your feelings - especially his actions after the sex event of last nite. Let him speak up. I think both of have some more things to learn from yourself besides lusting in sex which suppose to be the climax of the outlet of your emotions. Putting the cart before the horse, sort of.

Answer 9

dont you ever feel bad about your self an nothing is wrong with you and i dont think nothing is wrong with that guy all i can say is that if so be the case that the guy just need then one nigth sex with you an dont wont nothing to do with you dont feel a way i no it will be hard to do this but be strong be pround be a strong young ladythat i no you are .dont feel down believe in your self and love your self and leard of ur mistake and dont go running ofter him and you with see he wil be running ofter you cause you have it going horn girl woman power .if you a green lady say woman power

Answer 10

I'm sorry this is happening to you. Since you refer to him as "this guy" I'm assuming you haven't had much of a relationship with him. I'm guessing it was more of a one night stand. Yesterday was the 4th. Was he drunk? Were you drunk? If the answer is yes then you did a not so smart thing. I'm not trying to belittle you. Many of us have been there at one time or another. Just remember. If you're willing to sleep with someone you barely know please don't expect it to go anywhere. Men loose respect for women that sleep with them so soon. For your sanity.... let him go. You need to worry about yourself before him.