How do I bring up the subject of my depression and getting help?

Question

I have depression and serious thoughts of suicide. I have been told by doctors that I still have depression, even after taking anti-depressants for my headaches. I was told not to take my anti-depressants anymore because I began self harm and I wasn't the same. My doctor gave my mother a list of recomendations with people's number's on it so I could simply have someone to talk to about my problems because they began building up inside. This was over six months ago and I've reminded my mother to schedaul an appointment for me so I could get help. My mother seems to have forgoten that am suffering from servere depression. How do I bring up the subject of me seeing a shrink of someone without having to tell her about my thoughts of suicide? What if she says that I am fine and don't need to get help?

I'm only 13 and I have no idea who I'm supposed to call.

Answer 1

Well if your mother says you're fine, then she's just avoiding the fact that you are severly depressed. You should just see a doctor immediately, your mental health comes first. If you're a minor, it might be kinda hard to go on your own. If that's the case then you'll need to talk to your mom and find a way to convince her. Best of luck

Answer 2

Hi my name is Frankki. Yes Im a girl. I am 18 years old and have the best life in the world. But at age 12 I started crying a lot for no reason and wanting to sleep and be left alone. Likke you I too was scared to tell my mother I was having thoughts of suicide so I let it go until one day at 13 years old i hung myself in the bathroom. luckily my brother found me and my family got me help.I stayed in a hospital for 3 weeks and to tell you the truth it realy helped me. I have been through many medications beacause some didnt work. It just takes time. Youre mother is your mother and she will love you no matter what. Depression is a chemical inbalance. Its not your fault you have it and It is somthing that is inherited...mabey from your mother. You arn't alone. in counsiling I found 85% of the WORLD has some type of mental disability and 70% of that is depression. If you would like to talk more or any more questions my email address is [e-mail]. Good Luck & God bless.

Answer 3

Take responsibility for your own life pal. If there is no one nagging you to get help, like social agancies, i'm sure you won't be in any harm telling a trusted worker your thoughts. That's if you can handle that. Maybe yours thoughts on suicide are not about doing it to yourself, but just about a person doing it at all, and different ways and such. And you could be scaring yourself over nothing. You are scared that you dont trust yourself and it is fear that is ruling your life. Right, its like you have a little fear seed, (a thought) and your water it every time you think of suicide stuff and fear it, thus growing a huge poison pricker bush. The seed wouldn't have harmed you, but growing it by feeding it fear will.
Be an adult and take control of your thoughts. It will require practice for 365 days before you can say a year ago i was stressed but not now. Ask your mom to support you, and if she doesn't find a new mom! or do this on your own. Cause man i dislike your thoughts on that too!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I feel for you. I went years without any professional help. I believe that you can call and make the appointment yourself and then let your mom know when it is. If that is not possible....I suggest that you go to another adult...like a school counselor...or your Pastor, Priest, or Bishop. They will be able to talk to her and get you the help that you need. You don't have to tell anyone that you have thoughts of suicide except for your Therapist or Psychologist....but they might be more willing to talk to your parent if you do tell them and ask them not to tell her. Please....don't feel ashamed for having these thoughts and feelings. You are not the only one out here that has these problems. You have to be proactive about your mental health if your mother is not willing to. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to about things....I am a great listener and I know how you feel.

Answer 6

Tell her that you've been having a really hard time especially lately and if you don't see someone who you can talk to you don't know what you'll do. If your mother still doesn't she just might not realize how much pain you are in. You said she was given a list ask her where it is and if she could call somebody. Don't let her tell you there's nothing wrong with you, you know something's wrong, you're not neurotic. In the end you might have to call the recommendations by yourself. Just remember you have the strength to get through this, you've come this far! You can do this!!!

Answer 7

You could tell you mom that you have decided to see a shrink or therapist and you just want to check it out, see what it is like. If she doesn't respond immediately, then tell a teacher or a friend of your moms about the situation. Your mom probably will not like that you shared this, but in the end, she will be glad that you did. Having another adult go with you to talk to your mom or talking to your mom on their own might help her get moving. I know that sharing this with someone else will be scary and uncomfortable, but so are your feeling, so what do you have to lose? Sometimes reaching out and pursuing a therapist is very healing in itself. I know that it was for me. It also helps you know that you want help and that you are not helpless. Good luck, I think that your discussion to see someone is really good, you’re not weird, just want someone to help, that is perfectly normal and cool. I wish you the best, and remember that you are not alone; people aren’t meant to be left alone to figure everything out. Look at babies, they are so needy and they seek out others when they are toddlers. These traits of a child should not be lost and buried as an adult. Don’t be afraid of your feelings and don’t be afraid to share them. Your mom probably tells you that you are fine because it hurts her to think that you could be that unhappy or that she possibly did something wrong her-self to cause some of the problem. It is perfectly normal for her to want you to be happy all of the time, and just not understand that everyone has a different way of dealing with things and needs. Hang in there, and remember that lots of people share your feelings and even your post helps us know that we not alone, just want to feel more love. Hope this helps, sending my love, and I’m thinking of you,

Jules

Answer 8

Try the suicide hot line... 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) or log in @
www.saferchild.org/suicide.htm

Depression is not a joke and you can feel better, try the above. There are many ways to get the help you need with or without your mother being involved. Those two options will offer you choices...give it a try

Good luck and remember somebody loves you even if it's not you!!!

Answer 9

Unfortunately, this is one of those times you have to be your own patient advocate. If you cannot talk to your mother, find another trusted adult you can talk to and make sure you get help for yourself. The anti-depressants, if they are SSRI-inhibitors, like Prozac and Zoloft, can cause suicidal thoughts in young people and even self-harming behaviour. I would also investigate that as a possibility.

Answer 10

You need to pay attention to your feelings and get help. maybe your mom is worried that you are just being hormonal and the feelings will pass. Keep trying to get through to her by talking in a clear, collected manner. You may also try to see a school counselor, he/she may be able to hook you up with some resources.

In the mean time, you can do an internet search for depression and see what suggestion the sites have for dealing with what you are feeling.

You deserve to be taken seriously and I certainly hope someone does soon!