I've dated this guy for 6 almost 7 years, I do love him but all he says is that I don't love him, and alot of other things, my ? is, Should I wait around longer or move on????
2006-07-05 05:52:14 · 8 answers · asked by Lil Red 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he doesn't believe you love him when you really do, move on, becuase he may not love you and that's why he not secure about your feelings towards him.
2006-07-05 05:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by complete_shopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
almost 7 years is a long commitment in your life and, I would say that if you did not love this person you would have moved on long ago. If he does not listen to reason and realize that just you being there is enough proof of your love and commitment then you should cut your losses and move on. Life is too short to be on constant egg shells wondering how to convince someone you love them. Maybe the real question here is does he really love you? Seems like there might be an underlying message from him to you about his feelings and he is trying to make it look like it is your problem not his...
2006-07-05 13:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by Leslie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention anything about his personality, so it's kind of hard to say for sure. What are those "other things" he says? He is either really insecure, or is tired of the relationship and doesn't know how to tell you, so he's pushing you away. If he is just insecure, then you two need to talk about why he doesn't trust you or why he doesn't feel you love him. You have to ask him how you can show him that you love him. If you think he is trying to push you away, ask him if he still loves you and wether he feels you two have a future together.
Best wishes. God bless!
2006-07-05 13:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but move on. What he is doing is called emotionaly blackmail is a control technique. It is not always done on a conscious level but it does become a habit. If you would prefer to stay with him and just try and change the situation, then I recomment readin Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward, PHD. It is a good book.
2006-07-05 12:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sovereign 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever reason he has for not believing you is beyond me. If you think that he is no longer interested or treats you less than in a loving way, then he shouldn't be surprised if you decided to move on. He only has himself to blame for losing you.
2006-07-05 12:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is clear and simple...IT means "HE" doesn't love you...so with that in mind STOP calling him and TALKING to him, when HE calls you barely-to never answer your phone and when he gets you on the phone by any means tell him you don't have time that you made plans and you are busy...that you'll call him later....and DON'T Call Him...tell him you are simply out with friends...IF this doesn't change his arrogance Legally DUMP HIM!!! Simply say "listen, how long have we've been together?" and when he answers whatever his answer is Your response would be...well I feel we've been seeing each other for "WAY TOO LONG" and I really want to date other guys..! and continue on your road of NOT CALLING HIS SELFISH SORRY and CHILDISH A$%!
2006-07-05 13:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jr Thompson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on he does not love you or he would not be so insecure in your feelings for him ...
2006-07-05 12:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by sexyandsingle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moooove on. hes not worth the hassle!!
2006-07-05 12:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by megsaysstellar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋