Should I go back out with her?

Question

I went out with this girl for a month then she broke up because she got too busy. Then about a month later we got back together and a week later she said she was getting busy again so I ended it right then. She still wants to go out. She actually would rather be freinds with benefits and im unsure because why just be a guy to do things with and not even mean ne thing to her. What should I do?

Answer 1

You should go back with her if friends with benefits is all you want too. If you want more than that I would recommend you dont. You will not be happy.

Answer 2

Well, you have a gift my friend. A woman offered you 'benefits.' That hardly ever happens like that. Take what you can. Maybe eventually things will go more the way you would like. But take advantage of what you can get. Now, if she starts talking or going out with another guy...drop her like a bad habit. You don't want to be 'the other guy.'

Answer 3

Maybe she justs wants to be friends with benifits because she really likes you but knows she will probably be too busy for a full fledged relationship! I would suggest going slow and being friends with benifits for a while and let it progress from there it will probably with time blossom into a great long term relationship a least that how it worked for me and my fiance'. I wanted exactly what she wants and everything worked out great trust me it's not because she doesn't like you she probably even loves you she just doesn't want you guys to keep breaking up and going back out!!

Answer 4

Friedns with benefits always hurts someone some way at some time. If she wants to be REGULAR friends then yeah. But don;t put yourslefthrough that. And, don't waste YOUR TIME getting back with her because she will just get " Too Busy" again!

Good luck sweetie!

Answer 5

I am in the same situation right now. I am currently friends with benefits with the guy I was seeing before he got busy. Its actually working out for both of us. We see more of each other and yeah like we have benefits to go along with that but we also enjoy each others company and like to just hang out too. We are also getting to know each other better and finding out that we do want to be with each other. I am going to tell you its not easy but it seems to be paying off for me. But you got to go with your gut and your heart.

Answer 6

Friends with benefits is a very conveniant no ties relationship in its self. But if your looking for more and she can't comply then you need to find someone else

Answer 7

Friends with benefits is a great way to stay in touch (no pun intended). Maybe she will come to realize that making time for you is a priority in her life.

Answer 8

Well man it depends, if you'd like to be "friends with benefits" then go for it. But you sound like you might be a half decent guy, so I wouldn't bother with her if you don't mean anything but a "bootycall" to her. Find a girl who wants what you want.

Answer 9

no, you shouldn't go out with her. You want a relationship ..she doesn't..you're playing with fire here & Setting yourself up for hurt and disappointment. Sounds like she wants you around when it's convenient and possibly she just wants you to foot the bill for it. Either way, you don't want the same things and you're not a priority to her...that could do damage to your self esteem.

Answer 10

tough case, i would say.. u must be in a dilemma, huh? well it depends on u..ask urself if u want to go out with her. if u wanna, then continue.. but if not then stop it right now. but if it is like this that u wanna go out with her but dont want her to leave u when she gets busy, then talk it out with her. but i can understand that it really hurts. i hope this helps. all the best...