What should I say to her to gain back trust! I have already told her the truth but now she doesn't believe anything I say? What to do ..Please help?
2006-07-05 04:52:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Trust is a very fragile thing once broken it takes 100 time more to get it back. KEEP on telling the truth, and keep on, learning to trust a loved one after that loved one LIED to you is harder then trusting a stranger. "You can only hurt the ones you love most."
Keep it up, remember it will get worse before it gets better. but just hang in there. Good Luck
2006-07-05 04:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Leia M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trust can be rebuilt over time, but it will not happen any time soon. You are the one who lied. You have to accept the consequences of that action. Your mother is hurt, disappointed and probably wonders how many OTHER times you've lied that she DIDN'T find out about.
The only thing you can do now is consistently behave in such a way that you can win her trust back over time. It won't happen in a week or even a month. It might take a year, but if you want her to trust you again, you have to be willing to make the effort.
2006-07-05 05:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you know you hurt her feelings. It is hard to get trust back, but from now one, really be honest and open with her and she will learn to trust you again. You didn't say what you lied about, but I am sure you guys can get past it. Just let her in your life a little and she will know you want her there and she will trust you again. Good luck. Remember, your mother loves you and is the one person in the world that will always be there for you if you let her.
2006-07-05 04:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by motherofthree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a first offense by the tone, she doesn't believe anything I say! This is called TACTICAL behavior and prevents you from seeing the damage you caused or are causing by being a liar! Trust is a hard thing to regain when you continually break it, MOM or not no one likes being jerked around, you not only jerked her around you continue to play people thatsomehow you are being misunderstood and mom is not reasonable. I'm on Mom's side on this one, you need to check yourself and come up with some answers to the question you asked! If you want anyone to trust you, don't bullshit or lie!
2006-07-05 05:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mom, I would say that it will take time. You need to do some extra chores and be truthful from now on. Tell her that you know you made a bad mistake and ask her what you can do to show you're sorry. A lot depends on what you lied about.
2006-07-05 04:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is built back on step at a time.dont lie anymore its not worth it.wait till she calms down n then just show her that u have learned ur lesson.take ur punishment n deal with it.once she calms down things will get better but depending on what u lied about it will take time 4 her 2 get over it.n if there is anything else u r lying about come out with the truth n have it over with. n remember one day u will be 18 move out n then ur whole relationship with mom changes.
2006-07-05 05:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First give her time to cool off. Before trying again. Then show her, you can make some efforts in the relationship between you both. Do something nice for her, remind her how much you love her. Talk to her about the problem, tell her you are sorry for what you had done.
2006-07-05 04:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its simple just d what you do, tell the truth always even if she doesnot trust you anymore. trust me i am where your are right now but all i do is live each day as it comes and dont wish to impress my aunt cos it will never work. remember it will take time before you win back her trust so keep cool there is time for everything....time to be trusted and time not to be trusted.
2006-07-05 05:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by ωнєη уσυ ѕмιℓє уσυ мαкє мє ѕмιℓє 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, APOLOGIZE. Apologize for doing wrong, apologize for lying and apologize for hurting her because when children lie to their parents it does hurt! Let her know you've learned from these mistakes and that it won't happen again (and mean what you say). From now on, no matter what, BE HONEST with her! No matter what you do or how badly you've messed up, always know that she loves you and if you mess up again TELL THE TRUTH!
2006-07-05 05:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you explain more about the situation (maybe a little about what you lied about) it would be easier to give good advice.
2006-07-05 04:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by Scubble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋