He cheated on me in the past and I took him back and now I never trust him, what do I do? I love him and don't want to lose him but how can this work if I don't have trust? Need help!
2006-07-05 04:46:56 · 6 answers · asked by TexasK06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in the same situation not too long ago. My boyfriend went outside of our relationship and into the arms of another woman. Since then, I have forgiven him and we are still together. If the two of you want to stay together, there are a few things that BOTH of you have to work on in order to do so. First of all, you need to have a long conversation with him and 1) state your/his feelings on the subject, 2) your/his future intentions and goals, and 3) your newly-found standards and how they will apply to him/your relationship. You may also want to look into joining a couples support group or the like. If going this route, make sure that you speak with him about it first. Let him know in what ways you feel joining such a group would be beneficial to the two of you, and make sure that it is what he wants as well. The unfortunate truth is that some men commit to things like these just to make their mate happy. This is a bad deal because if it is something that they are not necessarily interested in then they will do just that--take no interest and be resentful for a long time to come.
If, however, he fails to comply and/or respond to you, it is time to go. It is best to leave then to drag yourself through more pain and frustration.
2006-07-05 05:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through the same thing. I broke up with him. He makes it impossible to trust him. I cant live like this anymore. If your bf isn't willing to do EVERYTHING you want him to do to try and start to bring the trust back then you need to walk for your own sanity. First you have to look inside yourself and see if you can ever get passed this and then see if he helps you through it.
2006-07-05 04:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should totally dump him.You don't need him if he cheated on you.I know that's not what you want to hear but who says he won't cheat on you again.You can find someone better than him anyways.It may take a while and you'll miss him a lot but you will eventually get over him.I hope it all works out for you.
2006-07-05 04:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After what he did you should.'t take him back ,he did it once he'll did it again because he know your going to take him back no matter what cause you took him back this time .LEAVE GIRL!LEAVE!He's no good he's going to do it again.\
2006-07-05 04:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by golosina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget him...you'll never trust him
2006-07-05 04:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by viv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him and start over.
2006-07-05 04:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by IndyMM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋