I've been a relationship for 8 years,with a long break in between. 6 months ago I started getting wierd feelings about a girl he works with. he is outside sales and she works for the vendor..so I knew she had his # and had to call from time to time..but this particular person ..just gave me wierd vibes.So, I asked about it and he said they are just co-workers and that is all he talks to her about. but, it got wierd..she called at weird hours or if she'd call he'd not answer or hang up as soon as i came around...plus she started texting him..which co-workers dont do.anyway, I started doing some investigating...well about a month ago..I found out he talks to her everyday (they are good friends),they text everyday, and hang out! ...I confronted him when he lied about going to a friends house and ended up going to a her party...he lied about the whole thing....he tells me that he didn't want to tell me because he was afraid of what i would say. I dont get upset..why would he do this to me?
2006-07-05 04:43:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I broke up with him...but, we live together so we are working on getting him out....Everyday, I still find out something new that he is still keeping about this girl. She has a boyfriend and he knows about my man and the girl knows I dont know and told him to tell me but he still wont....
2006-07-05 04:45:05 · update #1
If he couldn't be truthful the very first time that you inquired of this girl then you should already know that there most likely is or was something more going on. However there's always that possibility that your ex just made the wrong decisions in telling you about his co-worker and that the way he told you was the best way in bringing about suspicions and distrust, when he might have just not wanted you to throw everything out of proportion. But still, in a relationship it isn't appropriate for a boyfriend or girlfriend to keep secrets, ecspecially about "friends" of the oppostie sex. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-07-05 04:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by caitymercede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no telling why he has done this...maybe he feels guilty or maybe he thinks that if he tells you that he is friends with her and they are hanging out you might get jealous or upset. There could be a lot of reasons for him not telling the truth...If you have been in a relationship with him for 8 years and he is not comfortable telling you the truth about a friendship, then maybe there are other issues that need to be worked out in the relationship. I hope that everything works out for you and that you are able to talk to him about it and find out what he is feeling.
Good luck...
2006-07-05 11:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by curious me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he's an a**hole. it's a good thing u broke up with him. move out or have him out asap. this guy is bad news...once a cheatter, always a cheatter! and he did this to u because that's just what he is...a pig! it's not u're fault. just move on with ur life and get over him. there are plenty of guys out there who would be lucky to have u. u can do way better than him!
2006-07-05 11:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by sweet thing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be like the movie "the break up" try to make him jealous.. it will work! you guys will move on and meet better ppl.. when i say try to make him jealous.. go on dates with other guys.. they will pick u up at ur house when he is there and he will get mad! u dont have to pay any attention to the guy ur goin on a date with if u dont like him!
2006-07-05 11:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to find a new man
2006-07-05 11:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by scorpio11120 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck
2006-07-05 11:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by eve_polish_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋