4 year old gets mad and hits/talks back?

Question

When she doesnt get what she wants, she reacts by a small hit on the arm, or scratching, or saying, " I never.....!"

She has speech impairment and had PDD to note.

Any advice?
When she does this we say you do not hit, that is not nice. Then place her in time out.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I have a 5 y/o with a developmental delay and speech delay, I don't treat her any different than my other two children. Although she may have a delay I never question how smart she is or if she is able to understand what I've been teaching her all her life. Quit making excuses for her, that's the worst thing you can do. My daughter scratches too when shes frusterated, but that is NOT acceptable behavior EVER. We cut her fingernails down to the grid and make sure they are every day. If she should get somebody in the face someday that could be disfiguring and cause a major lawsuit. If I had to I wouldn't think twice about scratching my child once to let her know exactly how it feels...sort of like when they bite. My youngest started doing that but once I bit her back, she never did it again, the biting stopped shortly after. Sometimes talking just doesn't work.

Answer 3

Hit her back. While I'm not one to advocate corporal punishment, this would be an exception, if for no other reason, it will teach her the effect hitting has on others. Once she stops this habit, then don't use hitting again for any other reason.

At that age "don't hit" "don't do this" don't do that" has little effect on any child. It needs to shown by example. Also, as they get older, it is important to emphesize as unacceptable actions are being committed, to do it back or simply ask, "How would you like this being done to you?" There is NOTHING like being given a taste of your own medicine to get someone else's attention in many cases.

Answer 4

My daughter used to hit and throw fits, I cured her one day very quickly. I flicked her across the brigde of the nose once and not very hard, she stopped looked at me and I asked her if she liked being hit. She nodded no and I told her then don't hit other people. I didn't dwell on it and after the incident we continued to play, and I never metioned it again. Since that day she has never hit anybody else, she is 12 now and a good kid. I'm not sure if it helped or not, I just wanted to show her that it didn't feel good to hit.

Answer 5

With my 3 kids, they only tried to hit me one time. I took their hand and smacked it and looked them right in the eye and said "you do NOT hit" It feels a little weird to spank when the issue was hitting, but it gets the point across that the child is not in charge.

My mother taught me that it is the offending part that should be punished - if she says something disrespectful or inappropriate, you should pop her mouth. Believe me, you won't have to do it very often, and they will learn that being rude and disrespectful is not going to fly. Be consistent!!

(and time-outs do not work)

Answer 6

I would make the time outs longer and take things from her. Favorite toys, tv time or whatever. She has to be stopped NOW. What is going to happen when she goes to school? No teacher or other kid's parent is going to put up with her!

Answer 7

Make it unprofitable to hit you. When she hits you hit her back, only harder! You will only have to do this a couple of times then she will figure it out and go and hit someone else who does not believe in spanking

Answer 8

She's going through a phase. She wants 2 c just how much leverage she has on u & her daddy. Don't back down. give her a time out every time she acts out. She will c she can't win and eventually back down.

Answer 9

put him in his room, put up a baby gate to repreasent the punishment of little freedom (that is, of course, after they get a pop on the leg or some sort of reaction to them hitting you) worked for my bro when he was a child, and worked for my cousins.

Answer 10

Spankings. Plain and simple. Time out does not work. Don't caudle your child.