I've Been Through Many Traumatic Times In My Life And I'm Dealing With All Of Them Now All At Once Why?

Question

When I Was 5-19 Years Old My Dad Molested Me, My Mom Didn't Believe Or Protect Me, I Ran Away & Got In 2 Very Abusive Relationsips, The Father Of My Eldest Tried To Kill Us When I Went Into The 2nd Relationship, & The 2nd Guy Became Abusive Almost Immediately After That. Not Only Towards Me But Towards The End Of The Relationship, Abusive Towards My Son & Our 2 Kids. I Left That Relationship As Well, Not So Much For Myself But For My Kids. The Way I See It I Had A Choice My Kids Didn't, So I Chose What I Felt Was Best For Them & Me. The 2nd Relationship Ended Very Bad As Well, He Stalked Me,Threatened With Bodily Injury & Death Towards My Kids & Me, & Anybody That Was Around Us. Now I'm Dealing With Everything All At Once (Not Good). So Many Traumatic Things Happened During My Life That I Would Need To Write An Entire Book To Explain In Detail All That My Kids & I Have Been Through, Though I Feel It Might Be Put In The Fictional Category Because It Seems To Horrific To Be Real.

Answer 1

sometimes something will trigger all of our unhealed past to come back. you need to see someone or try to resolve these issues right now. if you don't ever leave them behind you and close that chapter of your life, you won't be healed and this will continually come back to you all at once.

good luck in your struggles right now and for your future! god bless

Answer 2

Many people believe many things can influence a persons life-astrology,past lives, etc.... I think that bad things happen to good people. I also believe that everything happens for a reason and we should take those experiences (+ and -) and try to learn something. Right now everything seems like it's too much to deal with. You should really try to get some "me"time whenever possible. Writing is also one of the best things you could do for yourself right now. It seems like you never really got over the abuse your father put you through. I am going through a very similar situation right now and I am finding it very hard to even accomplish daily tasks and care for my children at the same time. The most important thing is being a good mom above all. Protect your babies and keep them safe.
I had a friend reccomend a book to me and I think you will find it helpful as well. It is called "The Courage to Heal" by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis. This book will get you started in the right direction. This book will show you how sexual abuse can effect your life in ways that you (well at least I) had never thought of. If you can't buy it, they will most likely have it at your public library. I really roccomend you dive into this book as soon as possible and start the healing process asap. You deserve it. I have also found it helpful to write for 15 minutes after you put the kids to bed. That way you can focus on what your doing. Even if you think you have nothing to write, sit down and write anyway. I wish the best for you. Keep your chin up, you will get through this and be a much stronger person for it!

Answer 3

i am very sorry to hear of all the bad things that happened to you, but you must be a strong person if you dealt with it all. i really don't know what to say other than hang in there, and learn to really know someone well before getting involved, i wish you luck and happiness.

Answer 4

my advice go to the police report it, get u and ur kids a different idenity and go live somewhere else, across the country perhaps

Answer 5

"Because It Seems To Horrific To Be Real."
YOU SAID IT!!!

Answer 6

Im sorry to hear that youve been through all that. but you have been through it. take care and seek counseling. ♥

Answer 7

maybe somebody is trying to get your attention