Hi,
I just found out I'm pregnant for my first child father again he's a no good father. I promise my self after having an abortion once I'll not do it again, but I can't afford another child. and adoption I don't want.Family member would be mad at me if they find out because they know I struggle with the child I have nowPlease tell me should I have an abortion.
Thanks for your time
2006-07-05 04:17:12 · 18 answers · asked by Aries 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
No you shouldn't. You should of thought of that before you slept with him again. You can't go around killing babies because you aren't mature enough to handle the results of your own decisions. Just put the child up for adoption. You might not want adoption, but the child definitely doesn't want to die.
2006-07-05 04:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by Phil My Crack In 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think of this way. You are giving a child life. Since you can't afford this child and you don't think you can handle it. Reconsider adoption. There are so many woman who try for years to have children and can't and would love to have a healthy child they can call their own. Abortion is worse than adoption. At least with adoption the child is given the chance to live and become something great whether its in your home or in the home of someone who would want more than anything to have a child of their own. Good luck.
2006-07-05 14:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you I thought I would not be able to afford a nother baby but I have done very well if I say so myself. It might be hard at first but you will be OK. I promise you that you will be OK and you might think your family wont be there to help you but they will be there. Something else you can get wic and any other help out their. Just don't kill your baby. You will never be able to forgive yourself if you do. Both of my kids are wonderful, I have a 9 year old son and I just had my daughter 8 months ago and I have been raising them on my own with my in laws help. God will help you through it if you let him just pray that everything will work out. And if the father doesn't want to help that is what child support is for. If he still doesn't want to give you money then you go the next step and that is go through CHILD LAW ENFORCEMENT and get it. Believe me you will be happy that you kept the baby in the long run. if you need any other information you can email. gabreeze2001@yahoo.com I will be Glad to talk with you I was there once and I know what you are going through.
2006-07-05 11:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by babyashlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I'm sorry you are going through this. I know things seem tough right now but you will get through it. If I understand you right this is the third time you have been pregnant. One abortion, one child and one on the way. I understand the shame in pre-marital sex leading to unexpected children. I also know how hard it is to tell those that you love that you messed up again. So the choice is yours to make the right decision for your children or contiune to make bad ones.
I'm sure you also understand the shame and guilt that you deal with everyday b/c of the first abortion. I have friends right now who still deal with the guilt and it's been a decade or more. You don't want to do this again. Stand up, take responsiblity for your actions, be the best mom in the world for your kids. The true friends in your life will respect you and help you when you least expect it, if you make honorable decisions. Say no to sex until marriage and get the "no good father" out of your life right now.
2006-07-05 11:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by SEAN D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ever have an abortion, you can always go to the government and get help. If you are single get child support. If you are married to him, force him to help. Just NEVER have an abortion again. You will never be able to forgive yourself. I'm sorry, I can get really strong-headed about this. You never know if you can always have another child. I found out after I woke up from my c-section, that they had to do an emergency hysterectomy. If I had listened to my ex, I wouldn't have such a beautiful little girl, or another chance to have any at all. Do what you think is right, but remember that no one can play god. It is always up to god what happens. If you have the baby it is great, if not it's OK too. If you need help finding out how to get child support you can always ask me, or check the phone book for your local government offices and look for child support agencies, government housing, food stamps, anything that you think would help, even a little.
2006-07-05 11:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by katie w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel strongly that if you cannot raise this child yourself, being able to provide everything he/she will need to have a good life, then it is best to abort SOON and then NEVER DO THIS AGAIN. I tried to think what was worse... giving birth to a child and then placing it in a system that it may never escape, or aborting the fetus as soon as possible. Who knows the answer to that question really? Maybe this child would be placed with a wonderful, loving family, and this child would grow up feeling part of a family.... and do wonderful things... perhaps become our future president? Of course, maybe he/she would find themself at 18 with little future, and no family to love? If this is a situation you've been in before, please do something so that you will never find yourself in this position again. It's so unfair for everyone involved.
2006-07-05 11:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After making a promise like that, think if you could live with yourself after ward. Is there anyone in your family that would be willing to take the baby? Maybe an open adoption. I do not think financial reasons are reason enough to have an abortion. If you already know that the man is no good why get involved with a loser like that. That is the choice that we (adults in general) should be facing not abortion.
2006-07-05 11:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by larechiga26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it! adoption is a better solution. after having 1 child then 2 abortions(all with thew same man), now that i'm older and want another child, i cannot get pregnant because of complications due to the last abortion when i was 19. this is very unlikely to happen, like a 1 percent chance but i does happen, it happened to me. think about it long and hard, for when you get older you will regret it everyday and wish you would have chosen the alternative. now married and 25, i want a child with my husband and cannot give him one.
2006-07-05 11:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mz. Tanning Bed Junkie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is not always a good option. Adoption too does not sound good. Girlfriend frankly the best will be an abortion but first consult ur doctor and see if there will be side effects or not. Second abortion in a row, i am scared. Also get rid of this no good guy pls.
2006-07-05 11:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by angelilomo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer to this one. Does the father pay child support? See a social worker and ask if you are entitled to any other services to help raise your kids and it seems you need to get this man out of your life.
I would reconsider adoption, may people would love to be good parents and can give the baby more than you are able to do.
2006-07-05 11:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not abort this child. You had an abortion before and now you are pregnant. Doesn't this tell you something that this soul wishes to come to earth. Why do you not want to adopt out? This child could have a chance at LIFE! This child could be a great contribution to the earth. There is so much assistance out there. Please speak to someone of your options.
2006-07-05 11:22:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋