There is this guy that I went out with a few times off of Match.com. I really liked this guy but he had this wall up and told me that he couldn't be the person I needed in my life. He later stated that since he was unemployed and looking for another contract job, he was depressed. Now that he has another job, 7 months have went by, and he tells me that he can now be the person I need. When we hung out 7 months ago, he was very quiet and reserved. Can people change and be the person they say they are. This guy is really sweet, I have been going through relationship issues and he tells me that I have one of the biggest hearts he has ever seen. He tells me that I deserve near perfection, and he doesn't reply to himself that way, he just tells me that I deserve better. Do you think that he is sincere? I don't think that he wants me because I am seeing other people, really I don't think that's the case. He just wants to see me in the life I deserve. He is my opposite sign also.
2006-07-05 04:06:15 · 5 answers · asked by sag79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's simple, the reason why he told you that he couldn't be the person you wanted in your life is because he wasn't stable finacialy and he didn't wanna get in a realtionship where he wouldn't be able to support his family which is you and y'all children when y'all finally have some in the future, he wanted to be able to give you whatever you wanted and be able to take care of you or help you financialy if you may add and make you happy. And i can assure you that this man is taking this relationship seriously because he already proven to you that he cares about you and your needs and remember you can never understand the one you love until you understand what he/she is not saying. So now it time for you to give him a chance to prove to you how he really wanna love you.
2006-07-05 04:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The quick answer is yes. Men can change. We're human. However, that doesn't appear to be the problem here. You say he lost job and just recently found one. Humans associate the ability to earn income as a desireable trait to bring into a relationship, unless you are a child or teen. Men are notorious for this. And, face it, women highly desire this. But all this banter about "you deserve" this or that and downplaying himself sounds like he might have some underlying issues that stems from something else. The job thing is just one. I don't think he can committ and may be a codependant. He sounds like he is drawing you in through pity. Once he gets you in, he very well may lock onto you. So if the relationship turns south, the breakup will be messy. And if you do have a prolonged relationship, it will be rocky a lot of the times.
Good luck and take care of yourself.
2006-07-05 04:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, people change daily. think about it, being a contractor and not having a job. living on your savings and how much longer they might last. no insurance. lifes a mess right now and no prospects of employment anytime soon. you would be worried to death and not be able to put yourself into a relationship fuly. would you?
Now he's employed and he can concentrate on you.
it was nice of him to tell you up front that he was interested but he wasn't really himself at the time.
2006-07-05 04:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, everyone has the ability to do that...it's awesome..nothing is forever...not even if we want it to be....sounds like he has high expectations for himself..which is good (hence the job thing, etc) but I would be careful with emotions etc..until you know him better
2006-07-05 04:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they do it all the time
2006-07-05 04:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by sweet cheeks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋