i have a five year old son and his fathers mom wont pay any attention to him and she lives with us he gets so upset when she dont even say hi to him she has never bought him anything he has a causin that is two weeks younger then him and his grandmother watches her at are place every day for over ten hours a day even when she dont see her she calls her and goes to her house to spend time with her and always buys her things and takes out to eat or brings food to our house to eat knowing that he is here to and does not even bring anything for him to eat nothing and he see this and it upsets him a lot and she does not say anything to him what should i do about this it hurts me to see him this way everyday my husband and i always pays so much attention to him and try to buy him anything he wants for he could fell better and do many things with him to what do you think.
2006-07-05 03:49:19 · 16 answers · asked by baby 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
she has not just did it to him his other boy causin and his mom got really mad one day and told her all about this and basicaly she dont realize what she is doing she thinks she is doing nothing wrong and with the causin she maybe sees him once a year if lucky
2006-07-05 04:01:16 · update #1
u need to slap that grandma. im serious. she has no right to do that. or just kick her out of the house. or if u want a aproach that aint hurtful,sit her down tell her how ur son feels, and tell her at least try to pay attenchion to him......but she might be a sexist.cause u know the other one is a girl.
hope i helped.
2006-07-05 03:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is serious. You and your husband need to address her as a united front. Write down things that you want her to know that way you won't be lose the point of the confrontation or forget anything because of emotions. Give her examples of her behavior and how it makes you both feel and especially your son. The dad should have taken care of this the very first time it happened to "nip it in the bud."
When she does the neglecting behavior, bring it to her attention every single time she does it. If she doesn't say hi to him, she might be prompted by you saying, "Say hi to Grand Ma son." When he says hi, just stand there and stare like a psycho until there is a reaction. If she is so blatant about not saying anything, say..."does Grand Ma want to say something to little Billy?" If there is no response, say it again. Even if you have to be a nag, get some response from her. If Grand Ma gets a little bitchy, ask her if its so hard for her to say hello to a little boy that loves her.
If nothing changes, start picking up retirement home brochures and leave them on a table or some place she'll see them. Maybe she'll start asking questions. A counselor might be a good place to start.
2006-07-05 11:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by Average Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to remember that you married your husband and not his mother. Your first obligation is to assure that your own immediate family's well being and happiness has to take first priority. The fact that your mother in law is making your son uncomfortable and upset in his own home should be the first clue as to what has to be done. She obviously favours her female grandchildren over the males but she should be mature enough to treat them all the same. She is treating your innocent son with disrespect and cruelty. This is blatant emotional abuse, and if allowed to continue, could have a devastating effect on your child's development and future well being. For starters I would insist that she babysit her grand daughter at the child's home so that your son is not exposed to her acts of favouritism, and explain to the girls parents why you are doing this. Your husband has to take an active role and work as a team with you in confronting his mother. Tell her that if she can't find it in her heart to treat your son better that you will be happy to help her find a more appropriate housing situation. Your son is too young to defend himself and you and your husband have to consider his well being above all else. Grandma is staying in YOUR home and you have to take control of the situation. If her feelings are hurt, so be it. Think of your son. Good luck.
2006-07-05 15:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by jimminycricket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law treated my son differently than her granddaughter that lived with her too. She had all sons and that was her 1st granddaughter. Even though my son was her 1st grandchild. We didn't live with them so I assumed it was because of that. Some people don't see things from the child's point of view. If she is anything like my mother-in-law no matter who tells her, she will take it out on her son. So tell him to tell her what is going on. Maybe she will change. Good luck.
2006-07-05 13:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about that. She is just being a b**ch. Some day she will realize her folly and she will regret it. I would talk to her about it. Don't beat around the bush and come out and tell her what she is doing to the poor boy. Do you know why she does it? I hope it gets better. Good luck!
2006-07-05 10:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she SHOW LOVE to HER SON? Or, MISTREAT HIM?
Unless she's mentally ill, I say find a place for her elsewhere
Help her pack ...
How Unfortunate! A sign of the Times
(2Tim 3:3 > No natural affection )
2006-07-05 20:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by Merry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm i say raise your child well and let him be smart,well and cute i'dd rather say that the grandma will regret when she has a smart,cute,well grandson and just tell the granma to stop ignoring him of course talk to your husband too maybe there is a problem with that old lady or better off kick her out and dont let her see any of her granchildren anymore
2006-07-12 04:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by KID 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can relate my mother in- law is the same way to my 3 girls and she's doesn't realize what she is missing. I would try not to stress your self hun!! I have been there and you realize what they good is in your child she will eventually come around. Just be kind and nice it will pay off more
2006-07-05 11:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer.frye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring it to attention let her know how yall feel and tell her to leave yall home and don't come back until she can treat your son like she treat her other grandchild that she seem to enjoy more than you son because him being around her can mess him up in the long run.
2006-07-07 20:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by yoyoluv27910 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you and your mother-in law get along? It's sound's like she's punishing him because of you. (I hate to say it but there are in-law's like that) She need's to be out of your house and in her own place. Your son is a part of the family and if she can't respect him he need not be there.
Your husband need's to stand up to his mother. I have never heard of such bull in my life. This WITHCH know's exactly what she's doing.
I wish him much love & happiness.
THAT WHICH NEED'S COUNSELING.
2006-07-05 15:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by Shay~Shay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋