how to make my son to study well at the same time happily live his youth?

Question

studing and playing sometimes are not on the same side..so this question

Answer 1

Even your question is leaning towards being THE problem.

When I was a kid, - I had homework. I typically did not do it first, I'd play and the anxiously anticipate the burden of having to do it. Then my parents would come home, and the routine would be they'd ask me "Did you do your homework", -and I'd say "no", then they'd tell me to go do my homework, and I sulk a little bit, and do a half-assed job, -and they'd never really check it.

But that's just me... Is this a 'normal' routine? Is this typical for an American family?? Is this even the preferred goal of how life should be??

"Make my son to study well". buzz!!! wrong concept!!
"... happily live his youth"... buzz!!! wrong concept!!

A couple of comments:

Playing before doing work is avoidance and it inherently has a cloud hanging over his head. That's not too fun.

Happy is not doing what you want. Happy can include participating and making others happy. Check his homework and talk about it at dinner.

Your ultimate goal is to have him be a self-starter, do his work, brag to you about it, and limit his ability to adequately play before his work is done.

Happy is the person that doesn't run away from "difficulties" and is present in everyday life, not a concoction that has to be created by a mother.

Answer 2

Tell him that studying and homework are his job until he graduates and that his rewards(movies, games,going out,funny books,etc) will come like a paycheck. If he is lax in his job, the rewards will be less. If he makes c's, then his paycheck will be only the necessities, because he didn't earn enough for extras! B's are good for some free time but that A's will get needs and wants to a certain level. Make sure that after his homework is completed, checked by you, and any corrections made, that he study(written, orally, or made into a game according to his age and study style) for a certain amount of time. If he is already failing several subjects make sure that he bring those home daily to study and review until the grades are where you and he expects them.Expect a good job and stick to the paycheck guides!

Answer 3

There should be a specific time set aside for studying and school work. This is a Monday-Friday and always at the same time, but weekends are free for fun and on the weekdays ones all homework is done he is free. So if you say that school work from 5 to 6 than it does not go over as long as all work is done but it should never end early because he will rush though it to go play

Answer 4

I hate studying and working but i have learned that it is very important. If he has a test to study for create a fun game that will help him study. So that he will have a good time studying for school and then once he has his work done he can go out and play. That way he has studied and will get a good grade and he will have fun playing. Now he will have a good education and he will have fun doing it.

Answer 5

He needs to get the homework and studying out of the way first and then play. Or you could set aside a couple hours right after school for playing but then he has to get his studying done right after dinner. There's ways to do both and there's always the weekends!

Answer 6

They have to learn that there is a time to play and a time to work. If they take care of their work and get it out of the way, they have the rest of their time to do with as they wish.

Answer 7

my parents make me study everymorning like a daily chore and until its done i cant do anything else

Answer 8

it's tough with all his friends around, but you must set guidelines, and make sure they follow them